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I generally always like a certain type. Dark haired full figured women on the shorter side. I just can't help it. Like others have said you like what you like.
Mrs. Chow knows exactly what type of woman I like. She'll see some dark haired girl with big boobs and she'll sometimes point them out to me. LOL
Her on the other hand, has no "type" at all. So I'll have no idea that she got the hots for some guy, cause they can be very different.
LOL, I told her one time that it pisses me off, cause I don't know who the "enemy' is. j/k of course.
There is nothing wrong with having personal preferences, and there is nothing wrong with changing your mind when you find yourself interested in someone who does not fit your preference. Relationships are about chemistry. Even someone who looks like what you have always wanted might not do it for you.
first, although this has been asked by others here before, do you think that having specific "requirements" regarding physical appearance is shallow?
second, how logical (or not) do you think it is to dismiss someone you might otherwise be completely compatible with, based only on that factor?
1) No. Most people, if they are honest, have such ideals/preferences. It's simply a preference. It's normal. And since you know it's been asked many times before, why ask again?
2) I think it's completely logical, if that one factor means that the person is completely incompatible with your lifestyle.
first, although this has been asked by others here before, do you think that having specific "requirements" regarding physical appearance is shallow?
No. Not at all. You need to be physically attracted to the person you are with.
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second, how logical (or not) do you think it is to dismiss someone you might otherwise be completely compatible with, based only on that factor?
Those are the people you make your friends, NOT your significant other. I mean, just think about it, how many friends that you have who are completely compatible with you, but you dont find them attractive and/or you just dont "see them that way" as being a significant other?
I think sometimes we cannot help what we like. Our preference is sometimes set and it's difficult to deviate from.
But life is about shades of grey and there are times when our type is not met exactly. Even still, I reckon that from personal experience such instances are small deviations. I cannot help what I like, and won't apologise for what I do.
Shallow or not, I can't help it and that hasn't changed with age. My preferences are not that specific per se; it's more about the overall image, aura, and the way he makes me feel. Well, if I'm not attracted to him and force myself to go ahead with it, I'd be like a cold fish. Who wants to be with a cold fish anyway?
This I feel is a more realistic way of interpreting the nature of attraction. The more rigidly one holds fast to their "preferences", the more likely they are to suppress whatever visceral impulses of attraction they might otherwise have toward someone who doesn't necessarily fit neatly in their pre-determined preference mold. This is often merely for the sake of being faithful to the preferences they've already chosen for themselves, as if they were some sort of strict personal creed with no room for deviation.
o.k., I'll admit this is another of those subjects which has me like this:
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however-- and this is where I'm hoping for input here-- I've concluded it's about different purposes. figure it this way: you might say "I'd never ____ someone who _____" and what you put in the first blank has a lot to do with the second blank. if the first is 'date,' 'go out with,' or something similar, the second would be more about attraction- appearance, what a person has or does, etc.; if the first is along the line of something more permanent, the second would have less to do with attraction and more to do with characteristics or qualities you consider important in a human being.
anyone agree/disagree with this?
o.k., I'll admit this is another of those subjects which has me like this:
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however-- and this is where I'm hoping for input here-- I've concluded it's about different purposes. figure it this way: you might say "I'd never ____ someone who _____" and what you put in the first blank has a lot to do with the second blank. if the first is 'date,' 'go out with,' or something similar, the second would be more about attraction- appearance, what a person has or does, etc.; if the first is along the line of something more permanent, the second would have less to do with attraction and more to do with characteristics or qualities you consider important in a human being.
anyone agree/disagree with this?
generally I would agree, but there are always exceptions I think..
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another topic about attraction
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