This is getting ridiculous! (how to, women, cheating, attracted)
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Stressed? Maybe...Tired, possibly....I don't see those as excuses BTW. Yes he does complain about work but don't a lot of most people?
Seeing someone else? I may need to investigate that one....
Hell, he never even spends the night at my place anymore...
How many hints can you make really? A confirmed heterosexual male who claims to be in love...HEL-LO! It may have been longer than a month for all I know, and it's not a long distance relationship either, BTW...he lives right there in my town...go figure.
Porn? I'm not sure, all I have seen are his stacks of PS3 and XBOX360 games, and the only one that's even remotely risque would have to be Lara Croft, Tomb Raider...he's got that one.
He's probably not turned on by you anymore. At least not enough to want you on a regular basis. If it's once a month now, it won't get better after you've married.
Explore all of the possibilities before you make any harsh decisions. Once you've ruled out stress, fatigue, depression, anxiety, and any issues he may be willing to admit either about himself or about you, then you can start making other plans that don't include him.
Stressed? Maybe...Tired, possibly....I don't see those as excuses BTW. Yes he does complain about work but don't a lot of most people?
Seeing someone else? I may need to investigate that one....
Hell, he never even spends the night at my place anymore...
How many hints can you make really? A confirmed heterosexual male who claims to be in love...HEL-LO! It may have been longer than a month for all I know, and it's not a long distance relationship either, BTW...he lives right there in my town...go figure.
Porn? I'm not sure, all I have seen are his stacks of PS3 and XBOX360 games, and the only one that's even remotely risque would have to be Lara Croft, Tomb Raider...he's got that one.
There is definitely a disconnect somewhere other than the bedroom.
It's possible, he wants to end things but doesn't want to deal with the messiness of it. You haven't given a lot of info about your relationship outside of the bedroom, so I can only speculate. Looks to me like he's disengaging from the relationship, so it will be easier to end it. Or maybe he wants you to end it.
That is the reason people get engaged before marriage, so they can find out all the ways they are compatible, and all the ways they aren't compatible.
You have discovered a huge incompatibility between you, and it will only get worse. You're already thinking about cheating, just wait until you have been married a few years.
Cut your loses and get out now, before you make a huge mistake. If you don't, you will pay the price for years, and once you have children it will become even harder to get out..
Think with your head, not your heart....
My BF/fiance have not had sex in over a month!!!!!Yes believe it or not!This is just nuts!!! I am not a nymphomaniac by a long shot, but please....this is just not what I think is the "norm". This is only the first year of the relationship too BTW!!!. Should I just get a vibrator maybe? I am almost tempted to look for a boytoy or something....But that is not like to me to cheat or wander astray...sorry, I am just FED UP...If this is what I signed on for I might as well make a platonic friend. Any advice/suggestions???? If you were into a ten year marriage that would be one thing, but the first year of a dating relationship...now that's another story...
Are you suppose to be talking to HIM and not US? How embarrassing for him!!
Are you suppose to be talking to HIM and not US? How embarrassing for him!!
She just needs to sit him down and say "Alright bud what's up ?" (or in her case what's not up)
You need some truthful answers. Actively Listen and don''t try to over talk him or tell him he's wrong. It could be mental, it could be physical.
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