Help me give a good answer to the living together validation (man, family)
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How do I respond to this? No flaming here, I just need some advice on how to answer.
Relative: Our third anniversary is coming up.
Me: Anniversary?
Relative: Yes we have been living together for three years.
Me:............
Personally I do not celebrate not married couples move in dates. Just my belief. However I do know I am in the minority now so I will roll with the idea.
How can I acknowledge while staying off the soapbox?
And I thank you for your ideas.
I would simply say, "well congrats on your years together as a couple!"
That is no indication of approval but does imply that you are a non-judgmental nice person.
You are a nice non-judgemental person right ?
LOL, in all honesty we are all judgmental people, just that not others are on the same page as us yes?
Really these are issues we deal with everyday. I appreciate the view of others here on CD.
LOL, in all honesty we are all judgmental people, just that not others are on the same page as us yes?
Really these are issues we deal with everyday. I appreciate the view of others here on CD.
I do believe you're right that we all have our standards and judge others. The nice thing about getting a liitle older and hopefully wiser is we learn we don't have to give everyone our opinion (except on CD).
They either won't listen or don't care. That's why our kids will always make the same mistakes we made as kids.
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They don't seem to be asking for any input and it's their celebration so unless you were designated their conscience by some higher power a simple well wish would do.
I would simply say, "well congrats on your years together as a couple!"
I like this response. I also share the ideology that doesn't approve of living together and would not wish to indicate approval by saying congrats. This statement recognizes their relationship, but does not,IMO, indicate approval necessarily of their living arrangements.
I have never had this particular situation come up thankfully.
I do believe you're right that we all have our standards and judge others. The nice thing about getting a liitle older and hopefully wiser is we learn we don't have to give everyone our opinion (except on CD).
They either won't listen or don't care. That's why our kids will always make the same mistakes we made as kids.
They don't seem to be asking for any input and it's their celebration so unless you were designated their conscience by some higher power a simple well wish would do.
I like this response. I also share the ideology that doesn't approve of living together and would not wish to indicate approval by saying congrats. This statement recognizes their relationship, but does not,IMO, indicate approval necessarily of their living arrangements.
I have never had this particular situation come up thankfully.
Take a note cause at some time socially or at work it will come up.
I am leaning towards this response, I will just need to practice to it comes out naturally.
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a simple well wish would do. 
