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Well, when I was in my early 20's, most of the girls I met were not interested in dating a guy who was their age, and were looking primarily at guys in their late 20's, sometimes up into their 30's.
Usual explanations were that "guys in their early 20's aren't stable" (I was stable), "guys in their early 20's aren't mature" (I was mature), "guys in their early 20's aren't ready to be serious yet (I was). All of which is fine, really; it's no one else's business who you go for. But none of them were any of the above (stable, mature, or ready for a serious relationship), and most of them just dated slick womanizer after slick womanizer.
Not long ago, I reopened a dating profile online, put up a few pictures, some basic details (height, build, eye color, location, some witty answers) and just let it sit. Most of the messages I get come from women in their early 20's. That's who seems to be interested in me...
I'd be absolutely happy to date a woman my own age. I've also dated women who are older, and had a wonderful time. But hey, you date what's available, and it seems like women in their earlier 20's are making themselves available to me with more frequency.
I love these ALL men bashing threads! The OP will judge all men based on a handful. Gotta love it!
There are plenty of "women" threads. It is really eye opening. Can it be that the dismal state of committed relationships is nothing more than trying to figure "men" and "women" and never looking at the people and situation in the actual relationship?
Life is simple when taken into perspective. Once a person is born they are moving closer to death. Find someone who is looking for someone to love and if your on the same page enjoy life as much as you can. It's funny how people can place life limitations and have no clue how long their life is going to last.
That being said I don't see why any man would date a woman older than him. If your 35 go as low as 25 because at some point older women get that nesting thing going on. So get em young and legal then trade em in every few years.
Life is simple when taken into perspective. Once a person is born they are moving closer to death. Find someone who is looking for someone to love and if your on the same page enjoy life as much as you can. It's funny how people can place life limitations and have no clue how long their life is going to last.
That being said I don't see why any man would date a woman older than him. If your 35 go as low as 25 because at some point older women get that nesting thing going on. So get em young and legal then trade em in every few years.
And this is one of the reasons I'm extremely hesitant to get into a LTR. Why would I invest time, money and emotions into a relationship only to be traded in when I get a few wrinkles?
Well, Match once again "auto-initiated" my profile, and I had to go in and disable the sucker. Just out of curiosity, I checked to see who viewed my profile, and ... gee, it's a bunch of MUCH OLDER GUYS.
Look, I am not young; I am in my early 40s. I don't want to go out with someone who's 59, 60, 65+ for the same reason that I would never go out with a guy who's 20. Or even 30. The age difference is just too great. More than 20 years ... that's a generation gap.
I used to think that by the time guys reached their 40s, they'd be more realistic. But it never ends. I didn't want to date a 40-year-old guy when I was 20, and I don't want to date a 60-year-old when I'm 40. Insult to injury, I inherited the "youth" gene from my mom, so I easily pass for 30. Some of these guys would look like my grandfather. Four years younger, four years older. That's what I would prefer, and that's yet another reason I'm not on Match anymore.
What is there to understand about this?
Why do men do this? Why can't they be happy with someone their own age?
Well you will know what it feels like for us guys who get endless views and winks etc from "girls" living in Russia and China etc etc.
Well, Match once again "auto-initiated" my profile, and I had to go in and disable the sucker. Just out of curiosity, I checked to see who viewed my profile, and ... gee, it's a bunch of MUCH OLDER GUYS.
Look, I am not young; I am in my early 40s. I don't want to go out with someone who's 59, 60, 65+ for the same reason that I would never go out with a guy who's 20. Or even 30. The age difference is just too great. More than 20 years ... that's a generation gap.
I used to think that by the time guys reached their 40s, they'd be more realistic. But it never ends. I didn't want to date a 40-year-old guy when I was 20, and I don't want to date a 60-year-old when I'm 40. Insult to injury, I inherited the "youth" gene from my mom, so I easily pass for 30. Some of these guys would look like my grandfather. Four years younger, four years older. That's what I would prefer, and that's yet another reason I'm not on Match anymore.
What is there to understand about this?
Why do men do this? Why can't they be happy with someone their own age?
Wow, even if the old man has ALOT of money? big call
Well, when I was in my early 20's, most of the girls I met were not interested in dating a guy who was their age, and were looking primarily at guys in their late 20's, sometimes up into their 30's.
Usual explanations were that "guys in their early 20's aren't stable" (I was stable), "guys in their early 20's aren't mature" (I was mature), "guys in their early 20's aren't ready to be serious yet (I was). All of which is fine, really; it's no one else's business who you go for. But none of them were any of the above (stable, mature, or ready for a serious relationship), and most of them just dated slick womanizer after slick womanizer.
Not long ago, I reopened a dating profile online, put up a few pictures, some basic details (height, build, eye color, location, some witty answers) and just let it sit. Most of the messages I get come from women in their early 20's. That's who seems to be interested in me...
I'd be absolutely happy to date a woman my own age. I've also dated women who are older, and had a wonderful time. But hey, you date what's available, and it seems like women in their earlier 20's are making themselves available to me with more frequency.
While you might have been a catch in your early 20s most are not. I have quite a few female friends right around 25 and they seem to break up with one guy after the next in their age range. My recomendation to them is to find a guy in his early 30s as"overall" they will be more settled and more appreciated by someone a few years older.
And this is one of the reasons I'm extremely hesitant to get into a LTR. Why would I invest time, money and emotions into a relationship only to be traded in when I get a few wrinkles?
Pfft, what moron would do something like that?
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The OP will judge all men based on a handful. Gotta love it!
