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I've been happily married for two years now. I'm having fun with my wife, she and I get along great together, she respects my opinions and lets me be who I am, and vice versa, and we're looking at owning a home together in the near term and, kids as well. I think she's sexy and attractive and cute and fun to be with. I have a job I enjoy, and I would say that I've been attracting attention in a good way at it.
So why is it that I still want other women?
Don't get me wrong, I love my wife. No doubt about it. I married her and she is the light of my life.
But recently there's been this woman who came onto me. She is attractive, and she thinks likewise I've learned. She met me without a ring (it was right after I had finished working out), and she has been ... meeting the call of the wild, so to speak.
So, to those men out there who have dealt with this issue before, how do you prevent cheating on your wife in such situations? I know this very well could be just my male hormones coming out after seeing the same woman for 4 years. How does one make it last for another 45?
Temptation is the strangest animal. I've dealt with alcoholism, gambling, and laziness before. But temptation of the flesh is VERY STRONG. I guess I'm just wondering ... how do I deal with it best?
EDIT 1: Please, no religious psychobabble. I left the church a long time ago and couldn't be happier because of it.
Last edited by eskercurve; 08-16-2010 at 08:17 PM..
I think most of us have urges to do stupid things at times. The key is to resist it. You can't blame your hormones for you making a life changing decision.
Just don't do it. If you can't keep yourself in check, then you need to be honest with your wife and leave.
The planet is filled with wonderful and beautiful people. I think desire will come up from time to time for a lot of folk. If you find yourself obsessing about it, you might want to consider talking with someone. You've had problems with addiction in the past, this might just be another vice to be checked.
I've been happily married for two years now. I'm having fun with my wife, she and I get along great together, she respects my opinions and lets me be who I am, and vice versa, and we're looking at owning a home together in the near term and, kids as well. I think she's sexy and attractive and cute and fun to be with. I have a job I enjoy, and I would say that I've been attracting attention in a good way at it.
So why is it that I still want other women?
Don't get me wrong, I love my wife. No doubt about it. I married her and she is the light of my life.
But recently there's been this woman who came onto me. She is attractive, and she thinks likewise I've learned. She met me without a ring (it was right after I had finished working out), and she has been ... meeting the call of the wild, so to speak.
So, to those men out there who have dealt with this issue before, how do you prevent cheating on your wife in such situations? I know this very well could be just my male hormones coming out after seeing the same woman for 4 years. How does one make it last for another 45?
Temptation is the strangest animal. I've dealt with alcoholism, gambling, and laziness before. But temptation of the flesh is VERY STRONG. I guess I'm just wondering ... how do I deal with it best?
EDIT 1: Please, no religious psychobabble. I left the church a long time ago and couldn't be happier because of it.
Oh yeah you sound like you are so in love with your wife. You are so in love with her that you can hardly resist the advances of another attractive woman. Oh and you've only been married for 4 years. Do your wife a favour and divorce her before you cheat on her because that is obviously what you are going to end up doing. You've only been married for 4 years and you can barely control yourself around other women. You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. That way you could have gone out with as many women as you wanted without feeling guilty.
Last edited by KylieEve; 08-16-2010 at 08:40 PM..
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Oh yeah you sound like you are so in love with your wife. You are so in love with her that you can hardly resist the advances of another attractive woman. Oh and you've only been married for 4 years. Do your wife a favour and divorce her before you cheat on her because that is obviously what you are going to end up doing. You've only been married for 4 years and you can barely control yourself around other women. You shouldn't have gotten married in the first place. That way you could have gone out with as many women as you wanted without feeling guilty.
So, to those men out there who have dealt with this issue before, how do you prevent cheating on your wife in such situations? I know this very well could be just my male hormones coming out after seeing the same woman for 4 years. How does one make it last for another 45?
Temptation is the strangest animal. I've dealt with alcoholism, gambling, and laziness before. But temptation of the flesh is VERY STRONG. I guess I'm just wondering ... how do I deal with it best?
Gee I dunno. Why don't you ask your wife how SHE deals with it.
The best place where coworkers get to hook up is after work, when they hit the bars for beers. This is a given in every office I have been in.
Coz shagging the secretary on the executive desk is allowed only in cinemax flicks and porno Doesn't happen in the real world unless it's totally hillbilly ridden
That would be a good place to start. I don't do bars, do them rarely and I get told I'm arrogant. But it was also coz I told them I am unable to come down to their levels and socialize
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