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I'm filthy rich, have hot women all over me, never gave a nickel to charity, think the floods in Pakistan is God's will. Don't hate me because I'm rich. I made it the old fashioned way - through questionable means until they made it illegal.
Met a young lady recently, then later down the track learnt what she earnt, which is large by most peoples standards. Have to say how I saw her after that was in different and improved light.
Which got me thinking, my attraction to her didn't increase b/c I saw $$$ signs if we are ever an item. It is simply because she is successful, which Ifind sexy. I guess the term golddigger is someone who chases someone to get a share of their money.
But there is a fine line and it shouldn't be confused with when someone's attraction increases to someone because they are successful. I'm sure alot of people find successful people a turn on.
So, in your mind successful people are sexy? Are you sure you used the right word this time? I find successful people to be those who have 'made it in life', are happy and relatively free from want. I view myself as successful, I loved my work, I've been able to have just about anything I've really wanted. I've never had a desire to be what some people call rich. I'm damn sure not what I would call sexy. I think what you really mean is "successful people are more desirable".
So, in your mind successful people are sexy? Are you sure you used the right word this time? I find successful people to be those who have 'made it in life', are happy and relatively free from want. I view myself as successful, I loved my work, I've been able to have just about anything I've really wanted. I've never had a desire to be what some people call rich. I'm damn sure not what I would call sexy. I think what you really mean is "successful people are more desirable".
The fallacy in this argument? Poor people step on people and exploit others as well, and can also be guilty of being self-centered and greedy.
I've known wealthy people who would give you the shirt off their backs, and I've known poorer souls who would sell their grandmothers to the Hottentots for $200. The amount of money a money has is not a measurement of character any more than the color of his eyes.
Please. I lived in the Washington, D.C. area for 23 years amid the powerful. Then I worked for a financial firm in the New York area amid the extremely wealthy. The powerful, I got used to. The extremely wealthy made me sick.
From all I've seen, there are kind, generous people in all walks of life, but there are disproportionately fewer among the $250K+ set, with the scales tipping heavily toward the selfish and the "I got mine and to heck with you" crowd.
No thanks. There's a reason you don't see any shows called "Real Housewives of the AFL-CIO."
As for me, I prefer to define success by what I give and the kind of people my friends are, not what I get and "who I know," which is why I work with non-profits, am choosy about who I pal around with, and like what I see when I look in the mirror.
P.S. There are a lot of miserable wealthy people in this world. Why? Because they [URL="http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/happiness-in-world/201008/when-you-dont-yourself"]get their self-esteem from their "success,"[/URL] not their character.
Well, my response was to the bizarre generalization that people who have become financially successful are that way because they can't possibly have earned it through hard work and diligence. That kind of mentality smacks of sour grapes and is really unflattering to the person who thinks it. Hence my remark that you've quoted.
And as to your bosses, I would say this. Over the long haul, the people who get to those positions by dumb luck or just connections never last. Yeah, they're given a shot...but when times get tough, those are the ones that get swept aside like so many cobwebs. Their success is ephemeral.
Unless, of course, you're talking about government workers. I'm amazed, in my dealings with government, how some of these people have lasted in positions of power and responsibility. That would be my exception.
Let me put it to you in the form of a hypothetical question. Let's say two men are interested in you. Both are equally attractive. Both have good hearts, great senses of humor, give of themselves to others, are honest, etc. etc. One is unambitious in life, while the other one is a self-starter who has financial security. All other things being equal, who gets the nod?[/quote]
Of course the one who has financial security.
I guess I'm just opposing the idea that money always = success and success is = money = intelligence.
Of course the one who has financial security.
I guess I'm just opposing the idea that money always = success and success is = money = intelligence.
And I didn't say that. I simply said that a lot of the attributes that help make someone successful are also the same attributes that help make someone attractive. I just don't think that's much of a stretch.
Please. I lived in the Washington, D.C. area for 23 years amid the powerful. Then I worked for a financial firm in the New York area amid the extremely wealthy. The powerful, I got used to. The extremely wealthy made me sick.
From all I've seen, there are kind, generous people in all walks of life, but there are disproportionately fewer among the $250K+ set, with the scales tipping heavily toward the selfish and the "I got mine and to heck with you" crowd.
No thanks. There's a reason you don't see any shows called "Real Housewives of the AFL-CIO."
As for me, I prefer to define success by what I give and the kind of people my friends are, not what I get and "who I know," which is why I work with non-profits, am choosy about who I pal around with, and like what I see when I look in the mirror.
Shucks. Have you viewed the broad cross-section of reality TV? Shows such as "White Trash Wedding" abound.
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And they give you money, which is as good as cash.
Successful is sexy
