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We're DINKS & while the previously mentioned perks of not having kids are great, the biggest single factor for this decision was (drumroll)............................ I have absolutely no interest in raising kids, never have, never will. The wife feels the same.
Sounds like you and your wife are one of those "wired" CF couples. Sometimes I have to wonder if there isn't a genetic component going on (which I would consider an "excellent gene" ). My mate and I come from families who are mass producers - from choice. I'm talking about siblings and members of succeeding generations who have at least five kids. Dh and I are observed with a lot of head scratching from those folks. "You don't want kids - really? Why not? They're great." Dh and I merely say "not interested. not gonna happen." Which they just don't seem to get.
Melissa made a post upthread about the pressure - my mate is a Midwesterner; I was raised in the Midwest and south. If it's not corn fed family values being pressed on us, it's Bible thumping "be fruitful and multiply!" nonsense. To each, Dh and I shrugged and said "nope. not interested." It's hard to even get a spirited argument out of us about the issue, we have such a disinterest in the subject, though I'm more the one who will blow up like a puffer fish, spread my arms wide and say "would you just STF-U about that! It ain't gonna happen! A . I . N apostrophe T ! " if the person refuses to lay off. At such a display, the person will usually back off saying "whoa. I guess it's a good thing you aren't going to have kids, with that temper." My reply being "I guess so. I hate having to deal with dunderheads who refuse to understand a clear statement when it's been repeated three times."
Thats great OP!! I wish more people felt the same as you!! This planet is overpopulated enough as it is! As long as you know what makes you happy! There are so many unhappy resentful parents out there!
I could never do it though, my whole world revolves around my child!
Thats great OP!! I wish more people felt the same as you!! This planet is overpopulated enough as it is! As long as you know what makes you happy! There are so many unhappy resentful parents out there!
I could never do it though, my whole world revolves around my child!
I have never heard of DINKS or OINKS!
I got the term-"DINK" from a article in the Philadelphia Daily News about 6 years ago
Melissa made a post upthread about the pressure - my mate is a Midwesterner; I was raised in the Midwest and south. If it's not corn fed family values being pressed on us, it's Bible thumping "be fruitful and multiply!" nonsense.
I think that people who live in certain regions and smaller, more conservative cities probably feel more pressure than those living in large, progressive cities like Austin, San Francisco, NYC, or Seattle. Singles and couples who opt out of parenting are not a rare breed where I live. Similarly, I tend to see more couples who put more effort into the family-planning process who only have one child. I know very few couples who have more than two children.
I feel no societal pressure from my neighborhood and community. My friends and family, who live in more conservative cities and tiny religious-minded 'burbs, are another story. I cannot imagine living in my old hometown and being without a child; I'd be considered a freak. People there can't wrap their minds around the whole concept of choice and individual expression. A girl I knew from school was quite adamant about not having kids. She married a like-minded man, and lemme tell you, the whole community was shocked and confused.
Also, there's just very little to do in some of these towns that isn't family-oriented, making it even more of a bummer. A married couple might do okay, because they have each other. However, singles will have it a lot worse.
Thats great OP!! I wish more people felt the same as you!! This planet is overpopulated enough as it is! As long as you know what makes you happy! There are so many unhappy resentful parents out there!
I could never do it though, my whole world revolves around my child!
I have never heard of DINKS or OINKS!
Don't really like the terms myself but oink=one income no kids. Especially nice if you are a well rounded individual with a really good income.
honey, did you MISS the word "majority" in my post? You really need to do something about your reading skills............
Hey Opolope, don't hate on me just be cool with me
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). My mate and I come from families who are mass producers - from choice. I'm talking about siblings and members of succeeding generations who have at least five kids. Dh and I are observed with a lot of head scratching from those folks. "You don't want kids - really? Why not? They're great." Dh and I merely say "not interested. not gonna happen." Which they just don't seem to get. 
