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Old 08-21-2010, 04:04 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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An accident can happen very quickly to a child. They have tons of energy and can put themselves in dangerous situations because they simply don't know any better so I can't blame you for being upset. I do agree with those who said you shouldn't have told your Mother because it must appear to your husband that you were basically saying that he was doing a poor job as a Father and that surely must have hurt his feelings. I would make every effort to make your house as safe as possible for children which it sounds like you're doing. It might also be a good idea to reassure your husband that you know he cares about his family but maybe gently suggest that he should make some efforts to improve his physical condition.

 
Old 08-21-2010, 04:27 PM
 
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He could have stood up, shaken the sleepies off, thrown some water on his face and managed to stay awake to watch his child. If he can't even manage that, show some shred of concern and tell his wife he doesn't think he can stay awake. It will still be a load of crap, but preferable to that baby falling down the stairs.
Yep.

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Exaggerate much? Why shouldn't she be able to vent to someone she trusts?

I don't know much about the OP's other posts/threads, but I would be pretty upset if it were my child.
I actually think it's good for women, especially, to have a trusted friend to confide in. Someone who can help you talk out the situation and maybe see the error in your own ways. I do think it should be someone more removed from the situation. Venting helps get you out the irrational emotions so you don't take it out on your spouse.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 04:33 PM
 
Location: NYC
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Every child should take a tumble down a set of stairs at least once in their life. I did, my kids did, and it only needs to happen once to learn that lesson. Heck we used to slide down stairs on cardboard like a sled!
I think your blowing this entire thing way out of porportion. The one a$$ chewing was enough. But then you turn around and basically chew him out again while on the phone to your Mom. I'm sure your hubby feels like dirt right about now. And you've belittled him in front of your mother.
If you had any form of decency you would apologize to him immediately for that, then kiss and make up. This can go 2 ways. It can get worse or it can get better. The decision lies in your hands.

Fix it now!
+1 for ya!
 
Old 08-21-2010, 04:59 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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I've never read any of the threads the OP has started, this is the first. I might agree with Rances post if this weren't a 9month old.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 05:07 PM
 
Location: DFW
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I've never read any of the threads the OP has started, this is the first. I might agree with Rances post if this weren't a 9month old.
Yeah, 9 month olds are still pretty fragile yet move pretty quickly,

Until about 18 months they should be locked in a closet, like my mother did with us.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 05:10 PM
 
Location: In my skin
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I've never read any of the threads the OP has started, this is the first. I might agree with Rances post if this weren't a 9month old.
I was just about to address that myself. I agree that kids will tumble and fall, but no 9 month old "needs" it, nor would he/she be sliding down the stairs on cardboard like a sled. And it's been a long time for me, but I don't think 9 month old even has the ability to "learn that lesson" after it happens once.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 05:13 PM
 
Location: 39 20' 59"N / 75 30' 53"W
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Yeah, 9 month olds are still pretty fragile yet move pretty quickly,

Until about 18 months they should be locked in a closet, like my mother did with us.
Been in much therapy?
 
Old 08-21-2010, 05:32 PM
 
Location: Houston, TX
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The silent treatment is a very immature way of dealing with a problem. I'd call a GF and still go out.

Silent treatment is one of the few things that make 'slapping a woman around' runs through my mind.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 05:38 PM
 
Location: Ohio
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I guess I just need to vent. I have 3 kids. Last night I left my husband alone with my 9 1/2 month old so that I could go and put my 2 1/2 year old to sleep. My 9 month old has just started crawling and we were just about to babyproof the house. When I came downstairs I found my husband asleep and my daughter crawling towards the stairs.
I picked her up and woke my husband up and told him how upset I was and that he shouldn't have fallen asleep while watching the 9 month old and that she could have fallen down the stairs. He didn't seem to think it was a big deal.
My mom called today and I was venting about it. He was asleep in the living room again and I went downstairs into the laundry room to tell her about it. I don't know how but he overheard it and now he is giving me the silent treatment. We were supposed to go to dinner for our 9 year anniversary as we never get to go out and now he doesn't want to go with me anymore. I'm so upset. Whenever he gets upset he give me the silent treatment.
His refusing to go out to celebrate your anniversary is imature.Maybe you should just ignore him and let him pout and go out by yourself.
 
Old 08-21-2010, 08:44 PM
 
Location: SW Missouri
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I guess I just need to vent. I have 3 kids. Last night I left my husband alone with my 9 1/2 month old so that I could go and put my 2 1/2 year old to sleep. My 9 month old has just started crawling and we were just about to babyproof the house. When I came downstairs I found my husband asleep and my daughter crawling towards the stairs.
I picked her up and woke my husband up and told him how upset I was and that he shouldn't have fallen asleep while watching the 9 month old and that she could have fallen down the stairs. He didn't seem to think it was a big deal.
My mom called today and I was venting about it. He was asleep in the living room again and I went downstairs into the laundry room to tell her about it. I don't know how but he overheard it and now he is giving me the silent treatment. We were supposed to go to dinner for our 9 year anniversary as we never get to go out and now he doesn't want to go with me anymore. I'm so upset. Whenever he gets upset he give me the silent treatment.
The question is.... why is your husband so tired? Could it be because he was working hard all day to support his wife and children? Why could you not have taken your 9 month old with you when you got the other one ready for bed? Did you ask him to watch the baby (giving him the opportunity to say no) or did you TELL HIM to do it? Was the baby really in any real danger? Does "crawling toward the stairs" mean that the baby was right at the first step or does it mean that she was 12 feet away and headed in that general direction?

I think you are being a hysterical mother.

20yrsinBranson
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