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I often think about how our society views things about people. It seems like we put so much importance on certain traits, to the point were we often kill ourselves trying to get that the "ideal", IDK, sometimes I think we set ourselves up for failure.
What is more important in the "big" scheme of things, not just what our petty ego's think, I'm talking bigger grander things.
Is it being a nice person and kind, but maybe not the smartest person in the world or is it the guy who is brilliant but maybe not the nicest or kindest person???
In my world, you can be dumb if you're nice and you can be a bit arrogant if you're brilliant, but you can't be arrogant if you're dumb, because then you're just a stupid ahole.
Grande scheme?? Sure there is only 1 world but everyone's view of it is diffrent. There is no overall consenting grande scheme, everything is based of a individuals perception of that world. Maybe I am so positive because I am so young? I don't know because my story isn't done yet.
I want a man with similar views and beliefs as myself. BUT NOT TOO MUCH LIKE ME. My horrably failed relationship with my daughter's father made me realize that being with someone just like you only useally only brings out the negatives.
A great mixture of brains and kindness?? is that too much to ask?? lol
I often think about how our society views things about people. It seems like we put so much importance on certain traits, to the point were we often kill ourselves trying to get that the "ideal", IDK, sometimes I think we set ourselves up for failure.
What is more important in the "big" scheme of things, not just what our petty ego's think, I'm talking bigger grander things.
Is it being a nice person and kind, but maybe not the smartest person in the world or is it the guy who is brilliant but maybe not the nicest or kindest person???
Neither one to me is important in the 'grand scheme'. There's that old saying-- 'Sorrow is knowledge.. those who know the most mourn the deepest..' The flipside is 'Ignorance is bliss..'
What's important to me in the grand scheme is quality of life through quality experiences.
Nice and kind, as long as he's intelligent and educated enough to hold an interesting conversation with me, he doesn't have to be a genuis. I actually can't stand people who are highly intelligent and educated but look down on the rest of the world for it. Fortunately, I think my husband is both intelligent and big hearted.
I often think about how our society views things about people. It seems like we put so much importance on certain traits, to the point were we often kill ourselves trying to get that the "ideal", IDK, sometimes I think we set ourselves up for failure.
What is more important in the "big" scheme of things, not just what our petty ego's think, I'm talking bigger grander things.
Is it being a nice person and kind, but maybe not the smartest person in the world or is it the guy who is brilliant but maybe not the nicest or kindest person???
Being as I'm socially inept, I would need someone who isn't. Intelligent people are often socially inept...so I'm obviously better off with someone who is nice and kind.
Also, the person who is nice and kind is more likely to choose to approach me. Not that all kind people would, but I don't think people who are NOT kind to others would bother to seek me out.
I often think about how our society views things about people. It seems like we put so much importance on certain traits, to the point were we often kill ourselves trying to get that the "ideal", IDK, sometimes I think we set ourselves up for failure.
What is more important in the "big" scheme of things, not just what our petty ego's think, I'm talking bigger grander things.
Is it being a nice person and kind, but maybe not the smartest person in the world or is it the guy who is brilliant but maybe not the nicest or kindest person???
I have to agree with the other poster that we all have a different view of what that grander scheme is. Mine dictates that I wouldn't choose either of these. But, if this was all that was left, I'd choose the latter. Not being the kindest, nicest doesn't mean he is isn't kind or nice at all and Lord knows, I'm not as kind and nice as I used to be in some ways.
Not the smartest doesn't mean he is dumb, but smart is one thing I won't negotiate with. Stupid people are a disruption and a menace to my grand scheme of things.
I am drawn to truly nice, kind people, but for a long term relationship there has to be some commonalities besides kindness. Respect, honesty, repsonsibility, humor, shared values and goals, etc.
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