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I am fairly serious 25 year old guy from Asian Indian decent. I have intentionally ignored girls since they seem so troublesome and dating is basically a game. Through college I focused on keeping my 4.0 GPA and got a good job in 2007. I worked a lot in last 3 years, got a promotion and made 75K last year. I even bought house last year and mine financial/career goals seem to be all in order and am usually pretty satisfied in life.
However, recently I have been starting to get distract by girls. If I am not keeping mine self busy with something mine mind keeps on drifting off thinking of girls and sex. I admit for some reason I am really attracted to blond girls, luckily or maybe unluckily there aren't many single girls where I work. As mentioned I really think chasing after girls and dating is quite troublesome if not hopeless.
First of all, mine personality just doesn't seem to cut out for dating most of the girls out. I am pretty serious about mine career and financial goals. I prefer to relax in mine free time instead of partying hardcore. In fact I don't drink at all, so I can't see myself hanging out in bars or nightclubs really. Also, I would prefer a serious relationship. A relationship obviously can be fun, but truth is it is a lot of work and need 2 fully committed people to make it work. Most people seem to only in for the "fun" part, if it get hard they just walk out. I did actually sign up for 2 different dating sites, however most of girls don't seem to really worth the effort.
Most of girls (and boys) I have seen quite out-going/partying type and seems not be serious enough about life. Most girls I know (including Indian ones) love spending money. I swear most women all want big house, nice cars, etc but just don't even think about debt/finances of these expenditures. I just don't see it working unless I drastically change mine personalty to fit into the crowd. I would prefer not change mine self just to hookup with a girl. And to say the truth most girls out there just doesn't seem like serious marriage material to me. Of course, worse that could happen is I marry the wrong girl, get a divorce, and she leaves with half mine life savings! I hear some people even say it cheaper just to hire a escort to take care of your needs! Seem like even if I spend all mine time, money, and effort trying to get a girl it might not get me anywhere.
Hey, you're a 25 year old guy. Perfectly normal to be thinking about girls. As far as "is it worth putting in the effort to date"... what's the alternative? If you want a serious relationship, yes, it will require effort on both parties. You can't just "jump" into a serious relationship, so you will have to test the waters a bit, first, to find out who you're really compatible with.
If you don't party and are not into that scene, then don't look for girls/women in bars or clubs, because you probably won't find who you're looking for.
Don't beat yourself up about thinking about girls, though. It's natural, and you know how the saying goes, "Let love come to you. Don't go looking for it." Easier said than done. I'm a single girl, myself, and it's kind of hard to not look for something you really want.
Also, don't base your decisions on stereotypes like "girls love spending money". Keep an open mind.
Dating is a PITA, don't stress about it (easy to say). Do activities that you enjoy (that other people will be around) and you may find someone with similar interests.
Caution...if you flash cash and possessions, thats the kind of women you'll attract...and they will go through your $$$ faster than lightning.
Well I think you should focus on what makes YOU happy and maybe a great lady will show up with due time.
But there is a major red flag in your post. Your $$ and your nice pretty house?? You really dont want to bring that up because it really will attract all the wrong kinds of women. Unless you want a woman that loves you for your money, nice job and fancy house/cars...
The successful guys rarely have to put in much effort. If women like what they see, THEY put in the "effort". If they don't, you may as well, bang your head against the wall!
It can really be a soul destroying experience for some - especially those men who have worked hard to better themselves. Meanwhile women and the MSM try to put the blame for everything that goes wrong for these women, squarely on ALL men. This approach worked for a couple of decades but the internet blew the lid off this.
Enjoy the benefits of your career, you should focus on making plenty of money so you can have the high life. Make the most out of your singleness!
Believe me when I say that you are way better staying the way you are. Keep yourself busy with your work and hobbies that you like.
Why waste your youthful years with bitching women, dramas and being tied down? Dating takes the greatest opportunities in life away, women always want to control you and you'll end up settling down and not knowing the world and the good life a man can have while single.
Your life ends once you start dating.
As for the sex, it seems that you have the money for what we know.(you'll have the hottest girls ever and that will make the other guys jealous, because they have to stay with their nagging fatty girlfriends)
Mine main problem is that I keep on getting distracted more than ever before with thoughts of girls/sex. I am actually surprised I never had this much feelings when I was a teenager or in college. It is no wonder most teenage/young guys are just out looking get many hook-up with girls as possible! Right now I am keeping mine self busy with work or distracted with something else interesting. But just wonder how I can keep that up.
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Originally Posted by NotARedneck
The successful guys rarely have to put in much effort. If women like what they see, THEY put in the "effort". If they don't, you may as well, bang your head against the wall!
It can really be a soul destroying experience for some - especially those men who have worked hard to better themselves. Meanwhile women and the MSM try to put the blame for everything that goes wrong for these women, squarely on ALL men. This approach worked for a couple of decades but the internet blew the lid off this.
You know, just doing mine own thing and let a girl by chance show up is what I was planning. However, only place I am at is at work, shopping, or at every other Saturday for mine executive masters program at the university. Don't think there is a good chance of any single girl noticing and showing interest on their own in mine case.
As mentioned, I really doubt actively chasing after girl will ended up with good results either. I think finding good looking "nice" girl is is hard to find these days. That why there people still looking even past 40+.
You sound like you got your stuff together and that is good! This may not make a lot of sense to you but a lot of American women would find you "boring".
Why? Because most women may say they look for a guy like you, but in reality, they are looking for the opposite, a lot of American women look for guys who are jerks, *******s, loud mouths, the guy who drives the nice car but is one paycheck away from bankruptcy, or the guy who is full of crap and only says what they want to hear, or the player, those are the types that are most successful
I could not tell if you were born here or born in India, but if you did not grow up here in the States, I think the cultural difference will also be a factor, trust me, there are a lot of gold diggers out there who would marry a guy like you and then file for divorce just to take half of everything you got.
Have you thought about "importing" a wife from India? I don't know how you Indian guys can go that long without a woman(no offense) but it is good that you were able to focus on more important things like career/education, I wish I had that type of discipline, good luck to you, brother!
I am fairly serious 25 year old guy from Asian Indian decent. I have intentionally ignored girls since they seem so troublesome and dating is basically a game. Through college I focused on keeping my 4.0 GPA and got a good job in 2007. I worked a lot in last 3 years, got a promotion and made 75K last year. I even bought house last year and mine financial/career goals seem to be all in order and am usually pretty satisfied in life.
However, recently I have been starting to get distract by girls. If I am not keeping mine self busy with something mine mind keeps on drifting off thinking of girls and sex. I admit for some reason I am really attracted to blond girls, luckily or maybe unluckily there aren't many single girls where I work. As mentioned I really think chasing after girls and dating is quite troublesome if not hopeless.
First of all, mine personality just doesn't seem to cut out for dating most of the girls out. I am pretty serious about mine career and financial goals. I prefer to relax in mine free time instead of partying hardcore. In fact I don't drink at all, so I can't see myself hanging out in bars or nightclubs really. Also, I would prefer a serious relationship. A relationship obviously can be fun, but truth is it is a lot of work and need 2 fully committed people to make it work. Most people seem to only in for the "fun" part, if it get hard they just walk out. I did actually sign up for 2 different dating sites, however most of girls don't seem to really worth the effort.
Most of girls (and boys) I have seen quite out-going/partying type and seems not be serious enough about life. Most girls I know (including Indian ones) love spending money. I swear most women all want big house, nice cars, etc but just don't even think about debt/finances of these expenditures. I just don't see it working unless I drastically change mine personalty to fit into the crowd. I would prefer not change mine self just to hookup with a girl. And to say the truth most girls out there just doesn't seem like serious marriage material to me. Of course, worse that could happen is I marry the wrong girl, get a divorce, and she leaves with half mine life savings! I hear some people even say it cheaper just to hire a escort to take care of your needs! Seem like even if I spend all mine time, money, and effort trying to get a girl it might not get me anywhere.
Your best bet is to import. You can dye her hair blond
Easy! You get a wife, cook, house mate and caretaker, all in one. Better than the Directv bundle
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