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I want exactly the same things in a wife that I want in a g/f. However, I should note that I am long beyond the point of wanting or raising children (been there, done that), so for me it's a simple question.
I did marry my g/f of 7 years about 3 years ago, and nothing changed afterwards - at least nothing tangible. However, there was an intangible, subtle difference that was all to the good. Perhaps it was the commitment or a sense of stability. We did worry that marriage would change things for the worse, given all the horror stories about marriage, and our own prior unhappy marriages, but we were relieved that nothing changed. She is still every bit as wonderful as before, and even our sex life has continued to improve.
Thx for sharing more about your experience TaoistDude! It is wonderful to hear, that you and your DW, are still so happy together, and that your marriage to her made you feel even closer w/ her like that, as you'd mentioned
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I want exactly the same things in a wife that I want in a g/f. However, I should note that I am long beyond the point of wanting or raising children (been there, done that), so for me it's a simple question.
I did marry my g/f of 7 years about 3 years ago, and nothing changed afterwards - at least nothing tangible. However, there was an intangible, subtle difference that was all to the good. Perhaps it was the commitment or a sense of stability. We did worry that marriage would change things for the worse, given all the horror stories about marriage, and our own prior unhappy marriages, but we were relieved that nothing changed. She is still every bit as wonderful as before, and even our sex life has continued to improve.
I'm not the lucky lady, but I thank you for your compliment.
I'm a typical guy and have trouble with all the girl code. Someday you'll have to share, we're good at keeping secrets. Sierra will never tell (yeah right)
I'm a typical guy and have trouble with all the girl code. Someday you'll have to share, we're good at keeping secrets. Sierra will never tell (yeah right)
When there's a secret to share, you two will be the first to know.
I want exactly the same things in a wife that I want in a g/f.
This is so very true. After all, pretty much every wife in the world started out as a girlfriend so they obviously share many of the same qualities.
This is one of those questions that you need to answer for yourself. My first wife, first time I laid eyes on her I said "Im going to marry her one day". This was because she was the most beautiful woman I have EVER seen in my life. My current wife, I dated for quite a while before any thought of marriage entered my mind. It was over the course of our years dating where just one day, I realized that I wanted to spend the rest of my life with her.
Its just one of those things where you know. Like a sudden epiphany.
Thx for sharing more about your experience TaoistDude! It is wonderful to hear, that you and your DW, are still so happy together, and that your marriage to her made you feel even closer w/ her like that, as you'd mentioned
The 1st year or 2 should be used by you two to really get to know each other and adjust to being a couple. You think you're in love now but that love will get deeper with every year if you do it right.
Wait a short while to have kids, that changes your life completely and you'll want to have some time with her 1st. Once she has your baby there will be a love that goes far beyond what you now feel.
It's not easy but after the wedding, take care of each other and it will continue to be good. Most importantly, keep bad people out of your life, they can wreck your relationship. We let others influence us way too much.
Some very excellent "wifely" qualities you had listed there SD4020...all of which sound good to me
You should also listen to her and treat her well, with respect, love. Treat her how you would like to be treated. Times will come when it will be hard to remember that, she might have you pissed off. Never forget that you still love her and need to treat her that way.
It is okay to put her needs ahead of yours every once in a while.
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