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I think that everyone would love a marriage like Nick Sparks "The Notebook," but there's a reason why it's fiction--it just doesn't happen that much, at least not to most people.
Nine proposals, two marriages, one live-in arrangement. I've learned something from each one of my "ex-periences," and sometimes it was very painful ... but obviously, it was something I needed to learn about life and myself.
No, what was pitiful...was that she claimed that these particular posters, relationships would fail, despite having no inside knowledge. Kind of jaded.
That I can agree with. The last sentence could have be left out. Although I find it hard to imagine, having had many exes, I certainly know many people that have long sucessful marriages with their first, one and only.
That I can agree with. The last sentence could have be left out. Although I find it hard to imagine, having had many exes, I certainly know many people that have long sucessful marriages with their first, one and only.
Ok, it's lunch time...and I just broke my own vow to be "a better example to other employees" today.
Darn, for once I want to be a member of a club that wouldn't accept me!
Failure may hurt but it is the only way to learn important lessons about yourself, relationships and others.
On that note, I am always amused by the comments from those women on here who married their first bf and have been married fot 10 or 15 years. They seem to think that they have a corner on what it takes to have a "successful" marriage and can be quite vocal in spreading the "word".
However, many will eventually find that they are completely taken by surprise, when their husband throws in the towel.
They find it hard to believe that anyone is so lucky that they get it right the very first time.
I'm starting to see a lot of this in older couples:
Baby boomers lead new wave of 'gray divorce' - Sacramento Living - Sacramento Food and Wine, Home, Health | Sacramento Bee (http://www.sacbee.com/2010/08/15/2959874/baby-boomers-lead-new-wave-of.html - broken link)
There's an increase of people who divorce later in life. Many of these people were each others' one and only. I can't imagine spending 20 + years of my life with someone and raising children with them only to discover in my 50s or 60s that they weren't the right person for me after all.
One of my friends who got married at age 18 is going through something similar, even though she's younger. I never thought that she and her DH would divorce. They were each other's "first." It's been sort of a shock to me.
But then again, something I've noticed is that the married couples who I never suspect would even entertain divorce are the very couples who do. The couples I thought wouldn't last two years are still together.
Why is it pitiful? Are others allowed to have an opinion or discuss the pros and cons of each or do you members just want your privacy so you can pat each other on the back.
You know it seems just as "weird and sad" or more curious to me, to be with only one person your entire life as having exes seems wierd and sad to others who havent.
I know this quote was directed at me HOWEVER, I did not once insult anyone who had exes. Having exes is the NORM. Why is it ok for someone with alot of exes to accuse people without exes of being weird and sad????HMMMMMMMMMM
The people who protest so much are a little envious I think.
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I was DH's one and only girlfriend. I had a serious boyfriend (and a couple not-so-serious ones) before I met him, but in retrospect I wish I hadn't. It's just excess baggage. I think the way DH did it was much simpler--find me and keep me forever!
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