Coworker asked me to a party (boyfriend, male, single, pickup)

[punky86]

So Friday a male coworker of mine came into my office and told me a friend of his was having a party and I was welcome to come if I want. About 10 min later he came back into my office and said "Do you have a boyfriend?" I said "Yes" he said "O, well hes welcome to come too". This was a little out of the blue seeing as we've only spoken a few times. He then sent me an email later that day giving me his cell and saying "text or call me for directions".

I've never mentioned having a boyfriend to him so I'm assuming he must have asked someone if I was single.

Is he just being friendly? The whole situation really just caught me off guard.

[Rakin]

Two things: He's either likes throwing parties and wants you and your SO to come because he likes your outgoing personality.

Or #2, yes he wants you to come and was checking to see if you were available.

I'd say the odds are 70% of #2 maybe 30% number 1 above.

[Orincarnia]

when he said "o well he's welcome to come too" the next words out of his mouth were "dammit, i didn't think this through"

if you go to the party, it'll be just as awkward as when he asked you out/didn't ask you out/shot himself down.

chalk it up to a failed pickup and move on.

[mark303]

I'd say no based on that information alone. but the best way to find out if your being singled out is to see if others are being treated the same way.

Is he asking other co-workers if they're bringing somebody? are other co-workers being invited?

A follow up question, Are you interested in him, or do you feel uneasy about him. If your interested in him you may be inclinced to see advances that arent happening, and if you feel uneasy about him but still wanted to go then i would only go with trusted friends.

[Coolhand68]

Try not to read too much into it. Take your boyfriend to the party and have fun.

[Cleverbeetle98]

Sounds like he was trying to get you to go - and as an afterthought figured he should actually see if you're single so he wouldn't get shot down later at the party.

I wouldn't go. He and an underlying motive to asking you it sounds like.

[STT Resident]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Try not to read too much into it. Take your boyfriend to the party and have fun.

The only sensible response. Way too much psychological delving for such a simple invitation to provoke. Have fun.

[punky86]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

The only sensible response. Way too much psychological delving for such a simple invitation to provoke. Have fun.

Didn't know asking if he was merely being friendly was too much "psychological delving" but ok.

[yankeegirl313]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

Try not to read too much into it. Take your boyfriend to the party and have fun.

I agree. Its no big deal. It shouldn`t make any diffrence one way or the other, right? You have a BF so what do you really care what he thinks?

[punky86]

Once again the question was more so geared toward "is he just being friendly" should I accept the invite and attend with my bf.