Insecurity sucks! (wife, marriage, love, therapy)

[hope1er]

Okay so I suffer from insecurity... those of you who kept up with my post before "jealous and Controlling" know the damage it caused my marriage. My wife and I have been back together since June now.. and prior to that she had left me for a few months.. anyways, I have been working on my problem of insecurity since she left me but WOW is it hard not to fall back into the same old routine. Without warning insecurity just creeps up and takes control next thing I know I'm questioning her and creating these stories in my head and believing them, THE SAME JEALOUS AND CONTROLLING IDIOT AS BEFORE. Insecurity to me feel like a person inside of me that does not want me to be happy. At all cost it wants to ruin my relationship. It LOVES drama......it looks for drama!!!! My wife cares for me alot and I know she does and she says that I am a good man, great father, and really a great person but I have this disease.... Is it a disease? I have been to marriage counseling but I am going to start going on my own. Are there any online forums for this problem, Does anyone know where else I can get help for this. I don't want to lose my relationship, marriage, friend, to this problem. I need help.

[lovesMountains]

Originally Posted by hope1er

Okay so I suffer from insecurity... those of you who kept up with my post before "jealous and Controlling" know the damage it caused my marriage. My wife and I have been back together since June now.. and prior to that she had left me for a few months.. anyways, I have been working on my problem of insecurity since she left me but WOW is it hard not to fall back into the same old routine. Without warning insecurity just creeps up and takes control next thing I know I'm questioning her and creating these stories in my head and believing them, THE SAME JEALOUS AND CONTROLLING IDIOT AS BEFORE. Insecurity to me feel like a person inside of me that does not want me to be happy. At all cost it wants to ruin my relationship. It LOVES drama......it looks for drama!!!! My wife cares for me alot and I know she does and she says that I am a good man, great father, and really a great person but I have this disease.... Is it a disease? I have been to marriage counseling but I am going to start going on my own. Are there any online forums for this problem, Does anyone know where else I can get help for this. I don't want to lose my relationship, marriage, friend, to this problem. I need help.

You need some intensive individual therapy to get to the bottom of what has caused you to choose this destructive behavior in your life. Be open to exploring your childhood and connecting the dots so you can make sense of where all this comes from. If you stay highly committed to overcoming this, you can, but you have to do the work with a therapist.

Best of luck!!