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What about a fiance who refuses to go to sleep at a decent hour, because he has "work" to get done (mostly non-urgent, messing with computer configurations), and has just said that he doesn't want me going to sleep before him. He also has said I'm not "allowed" to leave for work before him, even though that means I will always be late, since he can't get to work on time to save his life. Any suggestions on how to deal with this situation?
umm, you're kidding right? Please tell me you are joking. What is his rationale for putting these ridiculous restrictions on you again? And why are you "ALLOWING" him to control you like that?
What about a fiance who refuses to go to sleep at a decent hour, because he has "work" to get done (mostly non-urgent, messing with computer configurations), and has just said that he doesn't want me going to sleep before him. He also has said I'm not "allowed" to leave for work before him, even though that means I will always be late, since he can't get to work on time to save his life. Any suggestions on how to deal with this situation?
He seems to have control issues. I would turn the tables on him and make some crazy rules of my own that he must follow or risk not having me follow his rules.
umm, you're kidding right? Please tell me you are joking. What is his rationale for putting these ridiculous restrictions on you again? And why are you "ALLOWING" him to control you like that?
I really wish I were kidding. He just said this this morning as we were walking out the door. The rationale is that he's swamped and stressed and thinks I ought to be doing more to help him get things done. I suspect that he thinks it will make me more proactive about helping him the night before.
I have not yet responded to him regarding his request....
What about a fiance who refuses to go to sleep at a decent hour, because he has "work" to get done (mostly non-urgent, messing with computer configurations), and has just said that he doesn't want me going to sleep before him. He also has said I'm not "allowed" to leave for work before him, even though that means I will always be late, since he can't get to work on time to save his life. Any suggestions on how to deal with this situation?
He seems to have control issues. I would turn the tables on him and make some crazy rules of my own that he must follow or risk not having me follow his rules.
This is definitely where my mind is going. He tends to come up with these insane things when he's extremely tired and stressed.... but I'm definitely thinking up counterbalancing rules.
This is definitely where my mind is going. He tends to come up with these insane things when he's extremely tired and stressed.... but I'm definitely thinking up counterbalancing rules.
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Sleeping, to me, is a waste of time. I don't like sleeping more than four hours myself. That gives me 20 hours to be awake.
The point is, I think, it's not just about him. There's someone else to consider who does need their sleep.
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He tends to come up with these insane things when he's extremely tired and stressed.... but I'm definitely thinking up counterbalancing rules.
