Ever experenced this kind of situation? How did would you deal with it.?

[Cherie Tebo]

Originally Posted by WFW&P

I guess the question lingering on everyone's mind is why someone, whom apparently is not a SO, would be planning a trip involving you without your knowledge or consent?
Does this person do this often?
Are you resentful this person does this?
And why do you go?

No they don't do it often.

Last month was the very last straw.I flat out told them I don't appreciate them for being inconsiderate of me and that I would no longer be going on anymore trips with them.

[WFW&P]

Originally Posted by Cherie Tebo

No they don't do it often.

Last month was the very last straw.I flat out told them I don't appreciate them for being inconsiderate of me and that I would no longer be going on anymore trips with them.

Good for you!

[virgode]

Originally Posted by Cherie Tebo

I was inquiring if anyone had this happen to them and how they dealt with this situation.
Then I described what happened to me and how I dealt with it is all.Never mentioned who it was.
Someone did make the asumption that it was my b/f.

I've never had it happen quite the same way, although, I have a friend inform me I had committed to take a short trip with her and I knew the subject had never been discussed and told her that, she said she thought we had. I agreed to go, it was a trip to see her daughter in college, who I wanted to see as well and I think she didn't want to drive by herself. Now had she called me a liar, I wouldn't have agreed.

[Mooseketeer]

Originally Posted by Coolhand68

I think having a private discussion about it when the third party isn't around is the more appropriate way to go. Throwing one another under the bus in front of other people is tacky. He shouldn't be making you out to be a liar or clueless idiot, and it would be better for you to clear the air privately.

Perfect answer and I concur.
I think the issue is about being insensitive in front of other people and making you look like an idiot.

In private to be honest , if Hubby wants to take me on an unexpected trip and has gone to the trouble or organising it all, he is going to get very lucky that evening !! I would be jumping up and down with joy.


Never look a gift horse in the mouth when it comes to travelling is my attitude and I can be packed in about twenty minutes... I actually told Hubby I could be packed to leave at just about any notice at all. In fact I would be ecstatic if he got a job abroad right now and if he wants to surprise me with it then even better.

He knows what I like and that apart from war torn countries I will move just about anywhere...