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I'm a stress smoker -- sometimes smoke on social occasions, but pretty rarely. Never inside of the house, around children, around my pet or to the point where it's a "must have" habit. I did live with someone who was a true smoker and who did so inside of the house. I didn't like this at all, but hey, I'd come to love him. When you love someone, it really makes a difference. He did end up quitting, but this was not to say that I wasn't concerned about his health (he was a heavy smoker).
I have more of an issue with people who drink. Or people who don't smoke cigarettes, but smoke that ... er, illegal stuff. Anything illegal that goes on around me or in my home is a big NO, and any substance that alters someone's personality to the point where there behavior is silly or otherwise unbecoming is not my cuppa. I feel the same way about drinkers and illegal drug users that most people probably feel about smokers -- if you do it, do it away from me, and don't let me be subject to your behavior.
But that said, I'd never write someone off just because he drank socially. I just wouldn't want to participate or be privy to it.
You mention many women smoke as a form of weight control. That's not a healthy way to keep weight down but at least they are concerned about their weight which is fairly rare today as obesity rates are skyrocketting.
If there was a group of thin attractive women smoking and another group of obese unattractve women not smoking I have no doubt more men would pay attention and be interested in the women smoking. They may nag them later but for initial attraction obesity would be more of a dealbreaker for more men than smoking. I realize it doesn't have to be an either-or choice, many guys would choose none of the above.
People ought to be concerned about their weight for health reasons, not just for appearance. Smoking might help someone stay thin, but look at the cost. That's a pretty big tradeoff and one that's entirely avoidable since one can stay thin without having to smoke. Sure, most men will opt for the thin smoker over the overweight non-smoker. Personally, I would overlook excess weight a lot sooner than I could overlook smoking. At least with excess weight, you can lose it and reverse the effects of being heavy. But with smoking, you can quit today but a lot of the damage has been done and can't be reversed. And you're right. It doesn't have to be either/or proposition. If all I had to choose from was thin smokers and obese nonsmokers, I'd stay single.
What animosity? Seems like some of the smokers are just getting defensive about people expressing their preference for non-smokers.
I'm a non-smoker and honestly, if someone wants to smoke, they can knock themselves out. Heck have two at once if you want. The only things I ask of a smoker if we're hanging out is not to smoke in my home and not to smoke in my car. If we're hanging out and you want to light one up, I'm going to take a walk down the street or stay a bit further from you until you're done.
I'm a non-smoker and honestly, if someone wants to smoke, they can knock themselves out. Heck have two at once if you want. The only things I ask of a smoker if we're hanging out is not to smoke in my home and not to smoke in my car. If we're hanging out and you want to light one up, I'm going to take a walk down the street or stay a bit further from you until you're done.
Damn, that's just too much work........
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