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To find a 10/10 who will stay interested in you, means you'll probably need to be at least an 8+/8+ yourself. And compatible in other ways, as well (values, goals, interests, beliefs, ...).
Research suggests that we marry others who are similar in looks and opinions. If you're not attracting 10s, as defined by our culture, then don't expect to work some miracle that will captivate a 10. You can only change so much about yourself, such as exercising or making more money. Do what you can as long as what you do does not consume you. Then, get happy about being single. Do what you enjoy. While you're out doing what you enjoy, think of it as having a fishing line with bait in the water. Watch for women who show subtle interest. You'll see them getting near and flicking their hair. Now, some women (and men) will flirt with no intention of dating you. Weed them out by not making sex a priority. This will free up your mind to assess their character. Date the one who has character because she's probably not exploiting you with flirting in order to boost a weak ego.
YES. Of course. Chicks like that become your friend NOT your significant other. The physical attraction HAS to be there for there to be ANY chance to become more than friends.
I have several friends like this. They are all great wonderful women but there would NEVER EVER EVER be any chance for them to become more because they are just not physically attractive to me. That is just how it is.
Really? So in your mind, physicality trumps even a tight spiritual connection?
I find that strange because for me looks wouldn't matter at all if there was a deep spiritual connection or we shared the same cause or battle in life.
I guess I have to give God the credit for my beautiful wife of 38 years. There's no way my judgement and looks alone could have found such a perfect life's mate.
At any rate, best of luck if luck is what you are counting on.
Research suggests that we marry others who are similar in looks and opinions. If you're not attracting 10s, as defined by our culture, then don't expect to work some miracle that will captivate a 10. You can only change so much about yourself, such as exercising or making more money. Do what you can as long as what you do does not consume you. Then, get happy about being single. Do what you enjoy. While you're out doing what you enjoy, think of it as having a fishing line with bait in the water. Watch for women who show subtle interest. You'll see them getting near and flicking their hair. Now, some women (and men) will flirt with no intention of dating you. Weed them out by not making sex a priority. This will free up your mind to assess their character. Date the one who has character because she's probably not exploiting you with flirting in order to boost a weak ego.
I have always found someone's personality can make them attractive. And someone's personality can make them very ugly.
I personally am attracted to intelligence. Nothing more sexy than a guy that can talk about something I am familiar with. I used to make my ex explain hedge funds to me in bed.
Has anybody had any luck finding a girl who is a 10 in personality and a 10 in looks or anything close? Are there really girls out there who are like thar?
Idk about you guys, but I just love the girls who are attractive but don't think they are or don't flaunt it.
They're exceedingly rare. Although where and when you meet them can greatly change how they behave. At a night in a loud bar or club when 15 guys have hit on them already, their ego will be at full tilt and they likely won't be worth talking to. Now if you catch them at the library or in line at Starbucks it could be a whole different story. Still, that's no guarantee.
I've found that women who had low self-esteem and then got hot later in life are the best because they don't have the over inflated ego and holier than thou attitude. Former fat girls are a good example, so long as you catch them in that phase where they haven't yet realized they're hotties.
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