People who draw ------------------------- lines (personalities, problems, looking, personal)

[Shankapotomus]

Ever encounter these personalities in a relationship or the workplace?

They either start the relationship out by immediately jumping on your mistakes and pointing out where you've crossed their lines, (you didn't do your job perfect the first time, you talk to them "too much", etc.) or they initially present a very friendly and sociable attitude to draw you in, only to start drawing lines later and using them as excuses to get madder and madder at you. `

When you try to talk to them about their line drawing (not initially knowing that's what it is), they just use your attempt to discuss it out rationally as an excuse to draw another line. Basically, they'll complain that you're crossing another line by even talking about it or thinking it's a problem between you.

I have a theory about these kinds of personalities I'd like to bounce off the city-data forumites. I don't claim it explains all of these personalities but here goes....

I think these types of personalities are insecure around people and want to assume the high ground first and so they start looking for and inventing problems with you in order to assume the high ground of superiorness before anyone else does over them. So they purposely make a big issue out of little behaviors others engage in, drawing lines you used to be able to cross but now can't, so they themselves always look superior.

So, in other words, they draw you in by encouraging the behavior, then, later, they start to complain about it to you and others so they will look superior. But, in fact, they are just trying to stir up trouble and make YOU look like the annoyance. But, in fact they have been targeting you and your genuineness the whole time.

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

[rlrl]

familiar.

[TakeAhike]

Originally Posted by Shankapotomus

Ever encounter these personalities in a relationship or the workplace?



I think these types of personalities are insecure around people and want to assume the high ground first and so they start looking for and inventing problems with you in order to assume the high ground of superiorness before anyone else does over them. So they purposely make a big issue out of little behaviors others engage in, drawing lines you used to be able to cross but now can't, so they themselves always look superior.

So, in other words, they draw you in by encouraging the behavior, then, later, they start to complain about it to you and others so they will look superior. But, in fact, they are just trying to stir up trouble and make YOU look like the annoyance. But, in fact they have been targeting you and your genuineness the whole time.

Does this sound familiar to anyone?

Ah, yes--'the manipulators'.

I've known a few. Nothing is ever enough for them--'Chip on the shoulder'--sniff--'I deserve to be recognized as 'Better' than others'.

You never win with them.