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Old 10-11-2010, 04:44 PM
 
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I came across a book called "365 Nights", in which a wife promises her husband sex every night for a full year. She presents this idea as her "gift" for his 40th birthday. I read the 1st couple of chapters, then skimmed through the rest and didn't find it that interesting. I gather they were a christian fundamentalist couple and this gift seemed to be almost part of a religious thing where the wife submits to her husband. She had previously tended to put off sex and apparently felt guilty about it.

I found the book condescending to men. She seemed to treat her husband as a little boy being given a treat and then sent on his way. She tended to talk about that day's mundane details while he was going at it and this understandably bothered him. From the parts I read, she rarely said anything good about the act, other than it was occasionally "nice". Of course, maybe that says more about him than her.

Anyway, what would your reaction be if your spouse told you they were going to gift you with sex every night for a year? As for me, a 51 year old male, I would probably run for the hills. I'm not married but when I was married, I did enjoy sex with my wife on occasion but would not want to indulge every night. I would think that after a few months, both people would be screaming for mercy. Hell, after a few weeks of nightly sex, that computer porn would start looking pretty good.
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Old 10-11-2010, 04:48 PM
 
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I would need a bionic penis for this task. I love sex very often but everyday? Hmmm, me and "buddy" don't think so.
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Old 10-11-2010, 04:49 PM
 
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I agree and Im in my prime...Im 23 years old...and I dont want to have sex with my spouse all the time...maybe like once or twice a week...but as a teenager that was a different story lol.
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Old 10-11-2010, 04:49 PM
 
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I came across a book called "365 Nights", in which a wife promises her husband sex every night for a full year. She presents this idea as her "gift" for his 40th birthday. I read the 1st couple of chapters, then skimmed through the rest and didn't find it that interesting. I gather they were a christian fundamentalist couple and this gift seemed to be almost part of a religious thing where the wife submits to her husband. She had previously tended to put off sex and apparently felt guilty about it.

I found the book condescending to men. She seemed to treat her husband as a little boy being given a treat and then sent on his way. She tended to talk about that day's mundane details while he was going at it and this understandably bothered him. From the parts I read, she rarely said anything good about the act, other than it was occasionally "nice". Of course, maybe that says more about him than her.

Anyway, what would your reaction be if your spouse told you they were going to gift you with sex every night for a year? As for me, a 51 year old male, I would probably run for the hills. I'm not married but when I was married, I did enjoy sex with my wife on occasion but would not want to indulge every night. I would think that after a few months, both people would be screaming for mercy. Hell, after a few weeks of nightly sex, that computer porn would start looking pretty good.

Just wondering what they did on those 5-7 nights a month when "Aunt Flo" was visiting??

I haven't read the book - it looked boring to me too. In addition, I agree if you had to "make" yourself have sex 365 days a year it would lose it's specialness and the fun of spontanaity.
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Old 10-11-2010, 04:57 PM
 
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No but I want to bust one 364 times a year.
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Old 10-11-2010, 05:01 PM
 
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Anyway, what would your reaction be if your spouse told you they were going to gift you with sex every night for a year? As for me, a 51 year old male, I would probably run for the hills. I'm not married but when I was married, I did enjoy sex with my wife on occasion but would not want to indulge every night. I would think that after a few months, both people would be screaming for mercy. Hell, after a few weeks of nightly sex, that computer porn would start looking pretty good.
I haven't read the book, so I won't comment on it or the wife's tone or intent.

I did read an article about it http://www.nytimes.com/2008/06/08/fa...ewanted=1&_r=1 and while I think it's unsustainable, it did apparently bring the couples emotionally closer and have a positive effect on their marriage.

I would love to try it, not so much with the expectation that we would be having sex 365 days a year for the rest of our lives, but for the added challenge and fun of it. Now I don't think my hubby would be on board with it though.

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Old 10-11-2010, 06:00 PM
 
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When I was married I wanted it everyday. Even towards the end when things weren't so good between us. That's more because I'm always ready to go than it was being turned on by him. It was either him or the rabbit. Given the choice I'll take the real thing.
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Old 10-11-2010, 06:01 PM
 
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365 might be much. But not withholding it would be nice. Frequently is great.
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Old 10-11-2010, 06:04 PM
 
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When I was married I wanted it everyday. Even towards the end when things weren't so good between us. That's more because I'm always ready to go than it was being turned on by him. It was either him or the rabbit. Given the choice I'll take the real thing.

I'm gonna assume "the rabbit" is a toy of some kind??
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Old 10-11-2010, 06:06 PM
 
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I'm gonna assume "the rabbit" is a toy of some kind??
YEAH it is!
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