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If you are dating someone, how long do you wait until getting intimate?
I don't wait. If the mood grabs me on the first date, then it's the first date. If it doesn't grab me until the third date, then it's the third date. If it doesn't grab me until the fifth date, then it's the fifth date. But if it doesn't grab me by the sixth date, it never will.
Why do you say I take a lot of risks? Because I try to actually get to KNOW someone for a while before having sex with them?
You don't know if she would decide to get an abortion, and the decision is ultimately hers. Even if she says she would, that's no guarantee of what she would actually do when making the decision.
On another thread, I remember you saying you've had sex with 12 people. That seems like a lot when you don't want kids. I don't want kids either, to the point where I don't even have sex. The thought of having kids is so undesirable to me that I just don't think sex is worth it. If I had sex, I would constantly be living in fear wondering if I got her pregnant. I'd rather just go without sex.
If you wait until you get to know them, that puts you a step above a lot of people these days. But if you don't want kids, I think any sex at all is risky.
You don't know if she would decide to get an abortion, and the decision is ultimately hers. Even if she says she would, that's no guarantee of what she would actually do when making the decision.
On another thread, I remember you saying you've had sex with 12 people. That seems like a lot when you don't want kids. I don't want kids either, to the point where I don't even have sex. The thought of having kids is so undesirable to me that I just don't think sex is worth it. If I had sex, I would constantly be living in fear wondering if I got her pregnant. I'd rather just go without sex.
If you wait until you get to know them, that puts you a step above a lot of people these days. But if you don't want kids, I think any sex at all is risky.
It's probably substantially less than most 40-year old men though. You think they all want kids? Men are typically less likely to want kids than women are.
I don't wait. If the mood grabs me on the first date, then it's the first date. If it doesn't grab me until the third date, then it's the third date. If it doesn't grab me until the fifth date, then it's the fifth date. But if it doesn't grab me by the sixth date, it never will.
Have to agree. Though I'd say I've always known by the third date if I was really interested.
Wait? If I like someone and Im attracted why should I wait. Im 40 a responsible adult.
I once saw an answer in an advice column to this question. The answer was that it depends upon your age. If you are young, you should wait until you know the person well to see if you are compatible and have other things in common besides physical attraction. If you are 45, you should wait about 45 minutes!
It's probably substantially less than most 40-year old men though. You think they all want kids? Men are typically less likely to want kids than women are.
They don't all want kids. But some of them ended up with unwanted kids. All I'm saying is if you have sex, there's a slight chance you might have a kid, no matter how many precautions you take.
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