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Age 44, divorced, 2 kids, aged 21 and 6. Wasn't married to the oldest childs dad, was to the youngest. Was physically abused by the dad of oldest, divorced the father of youngest due to his infidelity. Was sexually abused by a bf and aquired HSV2. Bio dad abandoned her at age 7 and then stepdad did same at age 12. has no contact with either since. Her mom has been married 4 times. I know everyone has their issues but is this too much to overcome?
Depends on how often the HSV2 breaks out. If both people have it and are on Valtrex, it isn't that big a deal anymore. It's not like they have HIV or Hepatitis.
I would personally never date anyone with HSV1 or HSV2 because I scar really badly from anything, even a small skin scratch leaves a permanent dark mark. And I can't afford to look like pineapple face.
All the other stuff I think it just depends on how well she deals with it. If she continues to look into her past or blame people from her past for her current problems, it might be problematic.
Hell awwww, that's too much baggage even for me. As time goes on, she would expect me to pay for the mistakes of sorry-ass men who done her wrong in the past.
Age 44, divorced, 2 kids, aged 21 and 6. Wasn't married to the oldest childs dad, was to the youngest. Was physically abused by the dad of oldest, divorced the father of youngest due to his infidelity. Was sexually abused by a bf and aquired HSV2. Bio dad abandoned her at age 7 and then stepdad did same at age 12. has no contact with either since. Her mom has been married 4 times. I know everyone has their issues but is this too much to overcome?
No, no, and, oh yeah, NO! Just a pile of baggage and red flags galore.
As time goes on, she would expect me to pay for the mistakes of sorry-ass men who done her wrong in the past.
I dated one gal with baggage...but not this bad....and that was exactly my experience.
I learned that I need to date people that have similar views on relationships to my own and that I sure as heck don't want to have to deal with the consequences of 20 years of bad decisions.
Age 44, divorced, 2 kids, aged 21 and 6. Wasn't married to the oldest childs dad, was to the youngest. Was physically abused by the dad of oldest, divorced the father of youngest due to his infidelity. Was sexually abused by a bf and aquired HSV2. Bio dad abandoned her at age 7 and then stepdad did same at age 12. has no contact with either since. Her mom has been married 4 times. I know everyone has their issues but is this too much to overcome?
Hell no. Too much baggage.
if she had sought the means to overcome her issues, then perhaps.
Another aspect is she has kids. Another reason for no-no.
Well, in my opinion, she does need a GOOD/DESCENT guy in her life but also needs to stop picking the abuser types. Yes, she does have baggage.........so? Don't many of us have baggage in one way or another? As far as her kids go, that part depends on how behaved/disciplined the kids are. Getting involved with a lady that has been thru a lot of crap, plus has kids can be a challenge, no doubt about that, but that don't bother some men. My wife, at age 51, was living with her mom when I met her. I was sort of shocked about that until I was told why (financial) and then I fully understood. The only transportation I had when I met her was a motorcycle, she understood when I told her why I only had a motorcycle (financial). Her "living" and my "transportation" was the only so-called "baggage" we had and we worked that out fine. Been married almost 10 yrs now. By the way, I'm only 1 year younger than her.......both from the same generation......
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