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I have been a "Starbucks Fly regular" from about 6:30 to 7:15 AM since the place opened awhile ago. I bring a brown bag breakfast with me and order coffee and a bagel along with it. I need a quiet place to relax just before going to my hectic paced job. I sit in exactly the same seat every AM by the windows
Over the past few months there has been a young extremely pretty dark girl who is there before i get there, sits in the same seat every day only over by the CD video screen on the other side of the store. She is probably a student since she is always armed with books, writing pad and pen
This AM I noticed she was in my usual seat(no one else was sitting in her usual seat) so i simply put my stuff down on the table next to it. Ordering, I told the guy behind the register that I want to switch to hot coffee instead of iced. Since they know i order iced every time, they asked me why the change and i told him i want hot coffee now because of the colder weather. When he asked me if i wanted something else i told him maybe a bagel with cream cheese later on
When I sat down to eat and drink, she suddenly let her hair down(something that really grabs my attention). Time went on and she went up to the counter and i heard her order a bagel and cream cheese and a hot coffee
I wondered if she overheard what i ordered and what the hair thing was about, or if it was all just a coincidence.
I don't know. Why don't you talk to her tomorrow ? I'm sure you can figure out something to say. You do have a mutual interest: this particular coffee shop. So again I'm sure you can figure out something to say.
Here's the deal. I don't think she'll hate you for saying hello. You are both regular patrons of the same coffe shop. Regular riders of the same bus talk to each other. Regular travellors of the same flight talk to each other. Regular patrons of the same restaurant talk to each other. I don't think you should neccessarily ask her out on a date tomorrow, but say something for crying out loud. You don't even have to get nervous about it, since not talking to her ever despite seeing her all the time is what really takes effort here. It doesn't matter if she is a romantic interest for you or a 90 year old man. It makes more sense to say hello to such a person you see all the time than to never say a word to them.
I'm not guaranteeing you aren't going to get "rejected" by any means. Your chances of ever landing a date with her are most likely slim. But I'm saying you want to talk to her, so go talk to her.
actually i am so out of the loop socially it's gonna be real tough
tho i certainly do have a close circle of close work acquaintances, the internet is my primary mode of social contact. I can honestly say i am freer and more spontaneous meeting people over the 'net than in person
i would like to change that because it has been soo long since i felt comfortable socializing in person
worker girls make chat with me i freeze and don't know what to say. I guess since I'm a regular there if i "flub up" a conversation "word could get around" and i would feel uncomfortable going back there. i'm one of those types
really i could use something to loosen me up but i don't drink at all.
Goodness, you sound just like me. You don't want to sound like me. Trust me on this.
1) Maybe she likes "shy boys," and maybe she doesn't. Does it really matter ? If you never talk to her, you'll never go out with her, so you don't lose anything by talking to her even if it turns out she really hates you. You'll just find out for sure she doesn't like "shy boys" whereas now you have no idea. Is it better to know nothing than to know something "bad" ? I'll leave that up to you to decide.
2) The worker girls are there to do a job. Who cares what they think ? They are there to make money. I highly doubt that any of them care whether you talk to this girl or not. And remember, I'm not telling you to necessarily ask her out. I'm telling you to say hi to her. To talk about the weather. To talk about the coffee. To talk about the bagles. That is your first step, just talk to her. Say the word "hi". If she starts talking about "her boyfriend," then you know for sure you're out of luck. But again what is lost ? Nothing.
3) In 5 years you'll have most likely not seen any of the worker girls for 3 years. It doesn't really matter what they think or what "rumors" they hear. It is of no significance to them. They don't care. Trust me on this.
4) If you never went to that coffee shop again in your life, would that be the end of the world ? I doubt it.
OK, OP, I'm basing my post on background knowledge obviously... I can't help but remember you have described yourself before! Unless you have a very, very, veeeery low self esteem and that description is inaccurate, how in the world do you expect to attract "a young extremely pretty girl"?! One has to have somewhat realistic expectations after all!
Contradiction to porns...chicks let there hair down for many reasons and most of them are NOT to turn on a guy or get his attention. I have ordered things at places after hearing someone else order it. Really it just reminded me that selection was good. Had nothing to do with the person ordering it.
I think if you keep staring and speculating you are going to seem like that creepy alone guy in starbucks. You should not need to drink to talk to people. Really the only way to stop being anti-social is to stop being anti-social. You won't be the first or last person to have a convo go bad or awkward so just get over it. Develop a sense of humor about it. I mean really...the worst she can do is act like a snob. You will live.
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thanks for the reply Davros
