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Old 10-14-2010, 05:42 PM
 
Location: a primitive state
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Why should it just be women? I went out with a guy a couple of times who brought his daughter to have dinner with us...maybe on the second date.

I felt guilty because I liked the child more than the father. I didn't go out with him again.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:01 PM
 
Location: Texas
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I would have turned it down and gone the other way. Mind you.. its not that I dont like kids or anything like that.. but heavens sake..

I am trying to get to know "you" better and you have your kid along for the date? Wouldnt make sense to me.. it pretty much sets the pace for the relationship.. would be a definite no to me.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:41 PM
 
Location: Wherever women are
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Totally and utterly insane on so many levels! Oh, well, recently I read a poll asking whether kids should be brought to bars... Since you can't really do what an adult would do there anyway, why not...?! Bring the milk shakes and the kiddos and date away!
How do you know? Ever had kids?

It's up to the mom to do whatever she wants as long as she does not put the kid in harm's way. The guy she is dating knows she has a child and it's gonna play a big part in the relationship.

If the date is headed for ruin, it's the douche's fault. He should go pick some childless woman.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:49 PM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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Just a touch weird to say the least. Who would even want to have their kids along on a first date? I guess you couldn't touch upon anything inimate or deep.

My mom dated people for years and I never saw the people or even knew of their existence. So I come from that frame of reference.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:53 PM
 
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I had a girl friend that did that the first time i invited her to my home. She showed up with her teen age daughter and we visited for a couple hours and she left. I didn't call her for anymore dates for a couple weeks, and she called me. We eventually started dating again. I excused her lack of insight and caulked it up to the fact that she is blonde. Many guys would not have dated her again, I almost didn't. I put off kissing her goodnight until she was worried that I wasn't interested in her.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:55 PM
 
Location: So Cal
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The pinko commie ultra liberals are gonna bash me here.... I have this strange notion that people shouldn't bring the kids around until way way later.... I'm talking knowing that the person is most likely a keeper.

God forbid people actually try and think about the kids needs ahead of their own.
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Old 10-14-2010, 06:56 PM
 
Location: South FL
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If God forbid I was to end up single again, I would never bring my son on a date and quite honestly, I would be extremely cautious whom introduce my child to. I would have to get to know this man so well and be so sure in his feelings and intentions for me before he would ever meet my son.
Bringing a child on a date is the strangest notion ever.
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Old 10-14-2010, 07:01 PM
 
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How would you feel about this? Let's say she asks you if it's okay to bring her child with her, what would you say? Assuming you like her a lot and you've already clicked very well in so many areas.

I'm not sure why my friend thinks this is totally fine. She even had this wide, satisfied grin all over her face when talking about it. She says her date is very excited and looking forward to meet the child. I personally think the guy just felt awkward to say no, so he decided to go along with it.

Of course at that point I really didn't know what to say to her, so I kept quiet.
My god. Your friend is incredibly foolish. I certainly hope that you discuss this with her and inform her of all the reasons why this is an absurd, naive and even potentially dangerous thing to do.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:12 AM
 
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Ehh......Not a good idea for a first date, but he does have to meet the kid if the relationship is going anywhere. Best to do it sooner than later.
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Old 10-15-2010, 01:21 AM
 
Location: Astoria, NY
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To the OP, though you may have your opinion, my instinct says to mind your own business unless you're 100% sure of what her reaction would be.

People react badly to criticism regarding the handling of their kids.
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