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Old 10-18-2010, 12:57 PM
 
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I didn't go though that phase. I married my first boyfriend. I never partied, drank or smoked. All I was focused on at that time in my life was work and university. I'm sure that may sound boring to most people and I do regret not having more fun. Oh well.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:00 PM
 
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I think people have the tendency to exaggerate so they don't sound too boring.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:02 PM
 
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I wouldn't call so much of a wild phase as I would a fun phase. I wasn't like those girls gone wild chicks, but I was no angel either. Maybe more like a fallen angel.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:03 PM
 
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I think people have the tendency to exaggerate so they don't sound too boring.
And conversely some don't share because they don't want to be judged.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:03 PM
 
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I didn't go though that phase. I married my first boyfriend. I never partied, drank or smoked. All I was focused on at that time in my life was work and university. I'm sure that may sound boring to most people and I do regret not having more fun. Oh well.
That's very commendable. While I partied in moderation, I always made sure to keep everything in check because I didn't want to be labeled as some type of drunk floozy. I'm not a partier these days but I don't regret not having a wild phase because it's just not something I was ever interested in.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:07 PM
 
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Depends on what you mean by "wild."

I didn't do much when I was a college student except study and work (mostly), and spend time with friends (occasionally). I didn't date, people didn't date at my college. There was a reasonable amount of hooking up, I'm sure, but that wasn't my thing, either.

When I was a working adult in my mid to late twenties, I did much more dating, and went out more. Don't really consider it "wild" to have ex boyfriends from when I was in my twenties, though, or to have been social and behaved in a responsible, legal manner. I was never wildly rebellious, because I never had anything to rebel against. I had a good relationship with my parents, who trusted me to be responsible, which I was, so they really didn't put a lot of rules or restrictions on me, and I learned, as a result, to moderate myself pretty well.
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Old 10-18-2010, 01:57 PM
 
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That's very commendable. While I partied in moderation, I always made sure to keep everything in check because I didn't want to be labeled as some type of drunk floozy. I'm not a partier these days but I don't regret not having a wild phase because it's just not something I was ever interested in.

Thanks. I just never had an interest in partying. I'm incredibly shy. You wouldn't know this from the way I post on these forums.
I do regret not having had more fun though. I shouldn't have taken everything so seriously.
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Old 10-18-2010, 02:01 PM
 
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Thanks. I just never had an interest in partying. I'm incredibly shy. You wouldn't know this from the way I post on these forums.
I do regret not having had more fun though. I shouldn't have taken everything so seriously.
It's easy to have fun without necessarily being wild. I've always felt that even the busiest of people should take some time out to have fun.

You may not have had fun when you were younger, but at least you had your priorities straight and it has no doubt paid off for you now.

I can empathize with you on the shyness part. I open up easily when I'm around people I'm comfortable with, but initially I'm a very shy person as well. Maybe this is why I was never a wild partier- I always had trouble going up to people and introducing myself.
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Old 10-18-2010, 02:13 PM
 
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I do regret not having had more fun though. I shouldn't have taken everything so seriously.


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Old 10-18-2010, 02:16 PM
 
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It seems like every 20 something woman I meet has a past with a string of old boyfriends, partied and had fun in college, experimenting with different guys, etc. I was busy working and going to school during that time and didn't have much time for fun or to get crazy. I admit that kinda bothers me a little so maybe you ladies can set me straight. Are there women who don't really go through that phase or is this pretty much a rite of passage these days? Am I just looking in the wrong places or do I need to be more open minded?
It's called "hookup culture". It's not uncommon for women to take all the worst stereotypical behavior of men (sex, binge drinking, etc) and then emulate it under the feminist banner of "empowerment" or "girl power". The sub-24 year old generation is just horrible with this as I've yet to meet a really attractive women in that age range with less that ~30 partners. I know a lot of women in their mid to late 20s that still go out 4 or more nights a week and hook up with 3 or more guys a week just because they can. Granted these are your club chicks and glamor model wannabe types that get all tarted up on the weekends. Still, they're not the only ones doing this sort of stuff. Not by a long shot in fact.
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