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Old 10-20-2010, 11:28 AM
 
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I have a half brother who is currently 28 and his wife is 28 as well, they both got married when they were 16 twelve years ago and are still happily married today with two kids and another one on the way. The thing is, they only knew each other for 4 months before my half-brother proposed to her.

I personally believe you can find the right person at any age and at any time. There are probably one or two couples aged 17 and 18 at my high school that have been together for 3-5 years that are now engaged, so I support them. But if they had known each other for a short while, I wouldn't be as supportive of them. I think there are SOME teenagers out there that are ready for the commitment and responsibilities that come with marriage, but unfortunately there aren't very many. I know some young adults that are more ready for marriage than my 46 year old uncle is. Also, my parents both got married at 30, due to my Mom getting pregnant with me, they then got divorced 5 years later when I was 5. So now I believe that the two people getting married determine the success rate of the marriage more than the age.

But I personally myself want to get married young, around 20-23 would be good.



What do you think about marrying young?
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:32 AM
 
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would you consider it a good idea to have a kid at 18?
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Tucson
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I don't think the reason for their marriage making it is necessarily finding the "right" person. It's just that at this age you're not set in your ways, you're not jaded, you're less selfish, you’re optimistic and doing everything for the first time together, you don't have basis for comparison, you don't have baggage (physical or emotional), and you adapt to another person more easily.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:36 AM
 
Location: Everybody is going to hurt you, you just gotta find the ones worth suffering for-B Marley
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I agree with you--most wouldn't be ready. I was ready at 18 and knew at an even younger age--way younger--what I wanted to do for a living. I think most people should wait a few years into the relationship to see how they feel once the most passionate part of the relationship has subsided, then see how they feel.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:36 AM
 
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What does this have to do with what I just posted?
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:37 AM
 
Location: Between Philadelphia and Allentown, PA
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I think there are many benefits to waiting to marry until you have your life and yourself figured out. You should be educated, working, saving money, live on your own, etc before getting married. I married young, am now divorced. I think I can speak honestly from experience that marrying young was the stupidist thing I could have done. I'm not even the same person I was at 18.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:40 AM
 
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It's legal for 16-year-olds to get married? Huh.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:41 AM
 
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What does this have to do with what I just posted?
Everything, if you look at it. It is a very recent thread in here about relatively the same issue. It goes into both marriage and children at a young age.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:41 AM
 
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I've read that divorce rates are higher among couples who marry young. On the other hand, marrying fresh out of high school used to be pretty common, and divorces were fewer. I don't know whether that has reversed because divorce doesn't carry the stigma it used to. Perhaps many of the couples married back then would have divorced but didn't, or perhaps many of the couples today aren't trying hard enough. I don't really know.
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Old 10-20-2010, 11:42 AM
 
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It's legal for 16-year-olds to get married? Huh.
Yes, the minimum marrying age at which you can marry without parental permission is 18, although it's up to 21 in Mississippi. But almost every state has a minimum marrying age of 16, but in some states you can marry at 14 or 15 and younger if the girl is pregnant. In New Hampshire, the minimum marrying age is 13.

Marriage Laws in the US by Age
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