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My coworkers probably think I'm very negative and a total b*tch. I don't care, though. I have my reasons.
I can relate.
Not sure of your situation or reasons, but for me, there came a point where I actually had to tell someone who was just an unholy pain in the arse with pestering me and wanting to chit-chat, "Look, I'm not here to win any personality contests. I'm not here to be LIKED. I'm here to get a job done."
That got me branded as "unapproachable," but that was okay by me. For one thing, I knew I was leaving that place soon enough. For another, it got me the result I wanted, which was to be left alone to concentrate on my work without wasting the first half hour of a Monday morning listening to Skippy and Buffy rah-rah-rah yadda yadda yadda blather whoopie whee about their weekends, their kids, their dogs, their ingrown toenails, whatever.
Not sure of your situation or reasons, but for me, there came a point where I actually had to tell someone who was just an unholy pain in the arse with pestering me and wanting to chit-chat, "Look, I'm not here to win any personality contests. I'm not here to be LIKED. I'm here to get a job done."
That got me branded as "unapproachable," but that was okay by me. For one thing, I knew I was leaving that place soon enough. For another, it got me the result I wanted, which was to be left alone to concentrate on my work without wasting the first half hour of a Monday morning listening to Skippy and Buffy rah-rah-rah yadda yadda yadda blather whoopie whee about their weekends, their kids, their dogs, their ingrown toenails, whatever.
My reason is pretty much being treated like crap by my boss for two years and then totally screwed over by the supervisors when I tried to change that. I see the lies and backstabbing and overall lack of spine in people there and have no desire to be friendly with anyone other than my one friend. We just had several new people start this week. I have nothing against them but I am also not going to be overly welcoming and helpful. They have told me what job they want me to do so I will do that and nothing more. I have a lot of knowledge to share with new people, but I won't. I had to figure it out on my own and they can too. There is no future there for me.
My dad is like this and he drives people away. Its sad becuase sometimes when I visit, I prefer to stay with my mom or get a hotel just so I wont have to deal with him. For people who are negative, I try to tune them out or just limit contact as much as possible....but obviously I cant do that to my dad LOL
Usually I ask them to tell me something postive.
Sometimes I say something postive or nothing at all.
Sometimes a person aren't even aware that they have become so negative,
Sometimes someone who acts negative may suffer from low self esteem or depressed.
There are a number of people who I come in contact with almost daily that are negative, bitter, unhappy, etc. This includes the boss, a few co-workers and a few close family members. I could be feeling pretty good and then have a conversation with one of them, and if I sound happy, they counter it with an unhappy tone of voice like they're trying to bring me down. I have to listen to them vent and if I mention any of my problems, then they downplay it and talk about how theirs are so much worse. How do you deal with people like this?
I deal with people like that easily..just think of it as a challenge. Can you make them smile?.Can you make them see the silver lining in their cloud,...but whatever you do, don't confide in them about your own troubles, sometimes people like that thrive on negativity.. Just be polite and listen for a bit, wish them the best and be on your way..Lifes too short to let others bring you down..be happy, and if nothing else you'll set a good example.
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