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That's OK. I'd rather have somebody who doesn't have a house than somebody who would "charge" me to live and take care of his crappy house and disgusting dog. I'd rather live in a studio or even a room if I have to.
I slept over at a friend's place for couple of days, then he changed his mind and let me in again.
Now he knows I'm making good money, so he thinks I should pay for everything since I'm still getting free rent, and he was "the one who provided me with a roof when I had no money whatsoever".
I don't see that asking you to return came from benevolence. He was leaving the country and having you there to care for his dog and house in his absense was to his advantage.
Now that you have an income, you didn't really think he'd stop using you as the dog sitter and home improvement specialist? If you add up your costs for the repairs and your time, hes getting a good deal. If its taking all your free time, offer him a set monthly amount like a border, let making alternate arrangement for the dog and home repairs be his problem. Have him give you a month to month lease. He can take it or leave it, but I'd cut my losses and continue with the plan to move out.
Save and leave. This man has no regard for your physical safety. You shouldn't waste a moment on the house and dog he cares for more than you. He made more arrangements for them in their time of need than he did for you once you moved to be with him. Screw him.
What do you mean, her "physical safety"? That doesn't seem to be threatened at all. What it seems like is that she doesn't want a relationship with the guy and is looking for an excuse to move on. Someone you care about, you should WANT to do things for. If you don't want to do those things, then you probably don't care about them. Actions speak louder than words.
He's just using you. While I am the type of person that believes that if someone lends you something you should give it back in the same or better condition, from reading your posts, I can tell this guy is just trying to get a free dog sitter and when he returns find the house has magically transformed into a castle. He didn't have to live with you while there, or even see your face. He leaves for a year and is magically transported into a better way of living thanks to the poor women he "helped" out, who he is going to kick out as soon as he returns.
My boyfriend kept saying I'm being taken care of because I'm living here for free,and he kept comparing the amount of work I did around his house to the amount of work he did. He just doesn't seem to understand it's HIS house.
Regarding the "money" issue - he kept telling me he will pay me back later when he comes back, I don't even know whether I'll be here by then.
Why not just simply move out to your own place? I mean, you sound uncomfortable in there so I don't see what holds you from moving out and paying for your own place, food, bills, etc. Besides, its not like you guys are married. It's just not a good feeling to arrive home and feel like crap.
If you feel he deserves to give you money, even when you are staying in his place for free (or so it seems), and want to do numbers then just sit down with him and do the math. Watching the dog, painting a wall, etc. vs with what a roomate would pay monthly for a room in your area ($600 to $800? Plus utilities). Ask yourself if you really want to stay for free in his place or walk out of his house and out of the relationship.
Watching a dog in a nice presentable place with cushion beds can cost around $15 a day. They get showered EVERY DAY among other services in places like this: Accommodation Options for Dogs . That could be a good option for you guys.
You mentioned you are finally making lots of money. Have you started looking for your own place?
There's a teeny tiny difference between liking somebody's dog and taking care alone of somebody's dog for a year! The bleeding animal-lover hearts!
Yes, and that's why I think the best thing for the dog would be to find it a new home. Obedience classes are for the human to learn how to train the dog. She said she hates the dog, so I'm pretty sure she wouldn't put forth any effort.
The only one I feel sorry for in this situation is the dog. I'm not going to apologize for being a bleeding animal-lover heart.
I still think you got you him "over the barrel" Its a lot easier for you to find a one bedroom , than for him to find a some one who will fix up his place ,watch his dog and pay rent too.
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me to live and take care of his crappy house and disgusting dog. I'd rather live in a studio or even a room if I have to.
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