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I only read the first couple of pages of this thread. So, I don't know if I'm going to touch upon points that were expressed earlier.
Like others, I voted "no". Sex isn't overrated. It's not the "be all, end all" of life, but it's very important. Our sexuality is what keeps us alive. I'm not only referring to its reproductive function and how sex allows the human race to continue on. I'm talking about the energy you feel when you're sexually attracted to another person. And, the feeling you have when you engage in satisfying sex with your partner. It's a tremendous ego boost to know that someone finds you desirable, and to be able to share yourself physically with that person.
Those of us in sexless marriages experience this in the opposite direction. Think about how depleting it is to not have what's described above. You may consider yourself to be successful in other parts of your life, and consider yourself to be reasonably attractive (and probably have other people telling you so as well), but if your partner doesn't show an interest in having sex with you, how can you possibly feel good about that? It's a real kick in the @ss. It's like a badge of shame that you carry around, and you hope people in your everyday life don't see the pain within. My wife does tell me that she thinks I'm attractive. Is anything happening in the bedroom? No. Talk is cheap.
To those of you who stick it out in marriages like this, I salute you. I don't know how the hell we do it. When I read the stories on other threads about spouses who get cheated on, quite frankly, I feel about zero sympathy. The asexual spouse lamenting that his/her partner went elsewhere to get needs fulfilled. C'mon - that's as surprising as the sun coming up in the morning.
This is what I mean when I say that sex brings too much trouble and drama. This fella can't see life without sex because he's addicted to it. Once you taste it(like once you taste caviar); you can't turn back.
I see plenty of guys like this fella, working themselves into an early grave to attract women. It's even worse when you see attractive, tall guys incapable of attracting women - going through a dry spell - and staring at everything that can be called female.
A friend of mine is going through that right now. He's good looking and all that but he's having "bad luck". He's stressed out all the time, can't sleep well and devours every woman with his eyes. Ever since I stopped porn and caring about sexual plesaure(masturbation), I can be around young ,attractive women and not be bothered about it.
For the poster who said that staying away from sex doesn't mean you are going to be a genius; no, but it helps you avoid stds, pregnancy, false rape reports and it helps you keep the house.
The house and the money and the alimony and the child support you'd put out, every month, when that marriage falls apart. I'm not going to risk my money, my freedom, and my house for something as ethereal as "love".
It all boils down to what is important. What is important to me? To have supreme control over myself.
I only read the first couple of pages of this thread. So, I don't know if I'm going to touch upon points that were expressed earlier.
Like others, I voted "no". Sex isn't overrated. It's not the "be all, end all" of life, but it's very important. Our sexuality is what keeps us alive. I'm not only referring to its reproductive function and how sex allows the human race to continue on. I'm talking about the energy you feel when you're sexually attracted to another person. And, the feeling you have when you engage in satisfying sex with your partner. It's a tremendous ego boost to know that someone finds you desirable, and to be able to share yourself physically with that person.
Those of us in sexless marriages experience this in the opposite direction. Think about how depleting it is to not have what's described above. You may consider yourself to be successful in other parts of your life, and consider yourself to be reasonably attractive (and probably have other people telling you so as well), but if your partner doesn't show an interest in having sex with you, how can you possibly feel good about that? It's a real kick in the @ss. It's like a badge of shame that you carry around, and you hope people in your everyday life don't see the pain within. My wife does tell me that she thinks I'm attractive. Is anything happening in the bedroom? No. Talk is cheap.
To those of you who stick it out in marriages like this, I salute you. I don't know how the hell we do it. When I read the stories on other threads about spouses who get cheated on, quite frankly, I feel about zero sympathy. The asexual spouse lamenting that his/her partner went elsewhere to get needs fulfilled. C'mon - that's as surprising as the sun coming up in the morning.
I wouldn't be unhappy to be in a sexless marriage...at all. In fact my marriage was sexless, we both disliked sex. That was about the end of what we had in common.
And what would be the characteristics of Taurus, if I may ask?
Taurus take there time in everything they do, from making decisions to sex. Its earthier and more sensual, less all encompassing than it is for a Scorpio who can use it for power. Scorpios like risks, Taurus doesn't.
Taurus take there time in everything they do, from making decisions to sex. Its earthier and more sensual, less all encompassing than it is for a Scorpio who can use it for power. Scorpios like risks, Taurus doesn't.
I like risks. But I like them only when I know I will eventually win.
Taurus take there time in everything they do, from making decisions to sex. Its earthier and more sensual, less all encompassing than it is for a Scorpio who can use it for power. Scorpios like risks, Taurus doesn't.
Do virgos think it is rude, when they are interrupted, when they are hanging out with friends...or is that just me?
That sounds nice, but no. You are a biological dead end. No future for you. Sure, you could do something grand so my children and grandchildren and great-grandchildren can read about you in books, if that is what you prefer. Are you the next Asimov or Tesla? What future are you?
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