Spouse keeps insisting on falling asleep on sofa and snoring LOUDLY (boyfriends, marriage)
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and it irritates the heck out of me . I have to deal with the snoring all night long in bed - I have difficulty getting to sleep and then I am awoken occasionally throughout the night. But before bed, he always, without fail, falls asleep on the sofa and snores ridiculously loudly. I suggest to him that he go to bed and he just gets mad at me. I have tried everything I can to get him to get checked out at a sleep clinic. He did go, but he has never gone back for the evaluation. He says he's too busy. I have brought up the "Snoring can kill you" issue, but it doesn't seem to phase him. We have spent periods of our marriage sleeping in separate rooms, but the noise goes right through the wall, and it has a negative affect on our marriage (as if the snoring doesn't .) He acts as if I am the one at fault because I don't like listening to it. And that he has every right to sleep in the living room if he so desires. Some nights, I just have to leave the room because I am so annoyed. I don't understand why he doesn't just go to bed.
and it irritates the heck out of me . I have to deal with the snoring all night long in bed - I have difficulty getting to sleep and then I am awoken occasionally throughout the night. But before bed, he always, without fail, falls asleep on the sofa and snores ridiculously loudly. I suggest to him that he go to bed and he just gets mad at me. I have tried everything I can to get him to get checked out at a sleep clinic. He did go, but he has never gone back for the evaluation. He says he's too busy. I have brought up the "Snoring can kill you" issue, but it doesn't seem to phase him. We have spent periods of our marriage sleeping in separate rooms, but the noise goes right through the wall, and it has a negative affect on our marriage (as if the snoring doesn't .) He acts as if I am the one at fault because I don't like listening to it. And that he has every right to sleep in the living room if he so desires. Some nights, I just have to leave the room because I am so annoyed. I don't understand why he doesn't just go to bed.
Any suggestions?
Many men do that, if it's any consolation...
I don't have any suggestions, but that's a nice reminder for me of the joys of singledom. I know that's insensitive... Sorry.
Get a white noise maker, and put it in YOUR room, as far as possible from HIS room. That will take care of the noise while you are sleeping. If TV is what you are after in the living room, then get a small one for YOUR room. Whatever you need out of the living room, move it into YOUR room. If he doesn't like it, then tell him he can either address the problem, or stuff it.
That would be my very next step. No way would I listen to that crap.
and it irritates the heck out of me . I have to deal with the snoring all night long in bed - I have difficulty getting to sleep and then I am awoken occasionally throughout the night. But before bed, he always, without fail, falls asleep on the sofa and snores ridiculously loudly. I suggest to him that he go to bed and he just gets mad at me. I have tried everything I can to get him to get checked out at a sleep clinic. He did go, but he has never gone back for the evaluation. He says he's too busy. I have brought up the "Snoring can kill you" issue, but it doesn't seem to phase him. We have spent periods of our marriage sleeping in separate rooms, but the noise goes right through the wall, and it has a negative affect on our marriage (as if the snoring doesn't .) He acts as if I am the one at fault because I don't like listening to it. And that he has every right to sleep in the living room if he so desires. Some nights, I just have to leave the room because I am so annoyed. I don't understand why he doesn't just go to bed.
Any suggestions?
Sleep apnea can be deadly.
He is in denial about his problem and making you suffer needlessly.
I call that extremely selfish.
It's completely up to you at this point as to what you are willing to live with.
You have two choices...
Either accept his boorish, foolish behavior, buy some ear plugs and let it go,
Or
Draw a line in the sand and take a stand (though I don't recommend this unless you are really willing to take things to the next level).
We used to have the same war, I had to either leave the room or wake him up, I usually woke him up. We slept in different rooms off and on, I ended up buying a king size bed, that helped. He has gotten alittle quiter over the years, he has apnea but won't wear the mask because he said it feels like he is being smothered with it on. There isn't much you can do.
Sorry about the snoring issue. If I was with someone who snored so loud that even earplugs and a fan wouldn't drown it out then separate bedrooms it would be. I've only had two ex-boyfriends this was an issue with and both slept on the couch a few times because I had something important to do the next day and needed my sleep. I've found that heavy snorers tend to live in denial and blame the non-snorer and act like they're the one with the problem for being unable to sleep while a freight train is making noises six inches from their ear.
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. I have to deal with the snoring all night long in bed - I have difficulty getting to sleep and then I am awoken occasionally throughout the night. But before bed, he always, without fail, falls asleep on the sofa and snores ridiculously loudly. I suggest to him that he go to bed and he just gets mad at me. I have tried everything I can to get him to get checked out at a sleep clinic. He did go, but he has never gone back for the evaluation. He says he's too busy. I have brought up the "Snoring can kill you" issue, but it doesn't seem to phase him. We have spent periods of our marriage sleeping in separate rooms, but the noise goes right through the wall, and it has a negative affect on our marriage (as if the snoring doesn't 
.) He acts as if I am the one at fault because I don't like listening to it. And that he has every right to sleep in the living room if he so desires. Some nights, I just have to leave the room because I am so annoyed. I don't understand why he doesn't just go to bed. 
Sorry.
