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Got to say getting a job or atleast doing something other than staying out home is probbaly the first step to not being single. I'm in the same boat: shy, socially inept, but one day I said to my self... **** I'm tired of this. I need to make somethign better of myself and put myself out there. So right now, I'm looking for a job. I got an employer reading me for an interview as I speak, and I'm happier than I ever was in a while. So yea, try that... or try volunteering at least. Obiviously, you don't need to do exactly what I say, but you get the point I hope :V. Start small and advance from there if you want.
Also, I'm 23 and have had only one maybe-relationship that ended before it started. So in a sense, I've been single and never been kissed my whole life as well so far. Yet, it's something I'm not sweating over right now. They say good things come to those that wait, and I'm hoping that's the case for me!
First, you are a good looking girl so that helps! In the meantime try to find a job, BUT there are manythings you can do that are free or almost free. Join "meet-up.com" and find interesting things to do in your area (most are free), take poetry reading, or writing clubs (shy people might go there) or photography clubs, also join a toastmasters, for public speaking skills, that may cure your of your shyness. Lots of bars have "ladies" night where drinks are free! Also DON'T WORRY ABOUT THE PAST, concentrate on your future. Your a hottie and will have a great future. Get involved in volunteer positions in your community too, you will meet a lot of people that way.
Hmmm....maybe it's me? But the way I see this thread is much like a nice and juicy bait, so I can only tell myself, "if I were a fish, I would swallow the bait, hook, and sinker, too."
i am shy and socially inept. i dont have any friends. i dont know how to socialize with people my age.
Hi, my name is Jordan and I am also a bit shy and socially inept. I also don't know how to socialize with people my own age.
you have a friend now
Seriously, is there any way that you could find a "cheap" hobby? Maybe join a group that goes hiking in the woods/mountains/whatever near you? Or maybe try speed-dating?
i think my problem is that as much as i so desperately WANT to go out and socialize, i don't have a base with which to start. i have NO friends who i can call up and be like "hey let's go bar hopping in down town d.c tonight". the acquaintances i do have are too boring and can only think of movie and dinner type get togethers where while i do get to hang out with them, i don't meet new people!
also, like i mentioned, i have NO money. i can barely even buy new clothes. efforts at socializing requires spending. buying cute outfits, make up and shoes + paying for the cover charges of clubs and lounges, paying for movies, theater, food, drink, cab ride/metro, gas. paying for book club fees, for classes etc etc. i am severely debilitated by my lack of finances. all i want to do is lay in bed and cry myself to sleep.
i think my problem is that as much as i so desperately WANT to go out and socialize, i don't have a base with which to start. i have NO friends who i can call up and be like "hey let's go bar hopping in down town d.c tonight". the acquaintances i do have are too boring and can only think of movie and dinner type get togethers where while i do get to hang out with them, i don't meet new people!
also, like i mentioned, i have NO money. i can barely even buy new clothes. efforts at socializing requires spending. buying cute outfits, make up and shoes + paying for the cover charges of clubs and lounges, paying for movies, theater, food, drink, cab ride/metro, gas. paying for book club fees, for classes etc etc. i am severely debilitated by my lack of finances. all i want to do is lay in bed and cry myself to sleep.
Plenty of decent advice in this thread. Its worth it b/c if you do put in more effort to meet Mr right, its an amazing and unqiue situation having that bond.
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