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When I got my first "real" job, was about 20 or so... That being said I worked with a couple of guys that were a lot older then me, they were probably in their late 30' early 40's.
One of the guys, we'll call him "Bob" I got along OK with him, not great, but enough to have a friendly work relationship with. He was an OK guy.
Fast forward about 21 yrs later, this was about last yr, I was working on a project and with some other employees, anyways, we were out to lunch and were sitting there and this guy "bob" walks in to the same restaurant, some place that was nearly 80 miles away from where we used to work together, and anyways, he goes up to the counter and proceeds to order. I see him and sorta duck when I see him.
I don't know why I ducked when I saw him. My first gut reaction was that he looked like a sad sad sack of man, sorta like life had done him wrong in the last 20 yrs. When I knew him, he always seemed like life had sorta semi-done him wrong, if that makes any sense.
So I'm sitting there sorta hiding behind my co-workers while we eat lunch, I just been having a rough week, didn't really feel sociable, and by the looks of Mr long face he was looking like someone had pissed in his cheerios. So I use this rational to not go up to him and get all chummy.
After a while he finishes his lunch and gets up, not seeing me, cleans up his area and heads out the door to leave. He gets in his little ratty beat up car and proceeds to leave.
I, a year or so later, still feel sorta crappy for not doing the socially appropriate thing by going over and talking to him and doing all of the typical haven't-seen-you in 20 plus yrs talk.
Like I said, I was having a bad day, and he looked like life had kicked in him in nutz...... IDK...
You implying that I like to lay with the men folks????
No. Just if you were available and he asked you might have dated.
Your post kind of read like that a woman might have wrote. I have no idea of your sexuality or inclination.
When I got my first "real" job, was about 20 or so... That being said I worked with a couple of guys that were a lot older then me, they were probably in their late 30' early 40's.
One of the guys, we'll call him "Bob" I got along OK with him, not great, but enough to have a friendly work relationship with. He was an OK guy.
Fast forward about 21 yrs later, this was about last yr, I was working on a project and with some other employees, anyways, we were out to lunch and were sitting there and this guy "bob" walks in to the same restaurant, some place that was nearly 80 miles away from where we used to work together, and anyways, he goes up to the counter and proceeds to order. I see him and sorta duck when I see him.
I don't know why I ducked when I saw him. My first gut reaction was that he looked like a sad sad sack of man, sorta like life had done him wrong in the last 20 yrs. When I knew him, he always seemed like life had sorta semi-done him wrong, if that makes any sense.
So I'm sitting there sorta hiding behind my co-workers while we eat lunch, I just been having a rough week, didn't really feel sociable, and by the looks of Mr long face he was looking like someone had pissed in his cheerios. So I use this rational to not go up to him and get all chummy.
After a while he finishes his lunch and gets up, not seeing me, cleans up his area and heads out the door to leave. He gets in his little ratty beat up car and proceeds to leave.
I, a year or so later, still feel sorta crappy for not doing the socially appropriate thing by going over and talking to him and doing all of the typical haven't-seen-you in 20 plus yrs talk.
Like I said, I was having a bad day, and he looked like life had kicked in him in nutz...... IDK...
Is it a cop out, or no big deal????
You know the answer to your question so theirs no point asking us.
You're just looking for people to say it's okay that you ducked out. ok or not ok is up to you, not what we think.
When I got my first "real" job, was about 20 or so... That being said I worked with a couple of guys that were a lot older then me, they were probably in their late 30' early 40's.
One of the guys, we'll call him "Bob" I got along OK with him, not great, but enough to have a friendly work relationship with. He was an OK guy.
Fast forward about 21 yrs later, this was about last yr, I was working on a project and with some other employees, anyways, we were out to lunch and were sitting there and this guy "bob" walks in to the same restaurant, some place that was nearly 80 miles away from where we used to work together, and anyways, he goes up to the counter and proceeds to order. I see him and sorta duck when I see him.
I don't know why I ducked when I saw him. My first gut reaction was that he looked like a sad sad sack of man, sorta like life had done him wrong in the last 20 yrs. When I knew him, he always seemed like life had sorta semi-done him wrong, if that makes any sense.
So I'm sitting there sorta hiding behind my co-workers while we eat lunch, I just been having a rough week, didn't really feel sociable, and by the looks of Mr long face he was looking like someone had pissed in his cheerios. So I use this rational to not go up to him and get all chummy.
After a while he finishes his lunch and gets up, not seeing me, cleans up his area and heads out the door to leave. He gets in his little ratty beat up car and proceeds to leave.
I, a year or so later, still feel sorta crappy for not doing the socially appropriate thing by going over and talking to him and doing all of the typical haven't-seen-you in 20 plus yrs talk.
Like I said, I was having a bad day, and he looked like life had kicked in him in nutz...... IDK...
Is it a cop out, or no big deal????
Maybe you wanted to talk, maybe you didn't. It was up to you to do what you wanted. I usually don't get all chummy with ex co-workers either. If they say hey, I'll say hey back, but I don't call them on the phone and stuff at night.
It must have been the right thing to do at the time and under the circumstances, or you wouldn't have done it.
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