Why when Women get the "bad guys" and when something bad happens the Woman(or Female in general) is suprised? (husband, personalities)

[Sydney123]

Probably because men don't show their a-hole side until she's invested.

[Jobster]

Originally Posted by Ruth4Truth

No, it doesn't. Most women don't want bad guys. They avoid bad guys, and warn each other about bad guys. Interesting, though, that you're around the kind of women who go for bad guys at least enough to observe them and believe they represent the norm.
People who make good choices for a partner don't need to train anyone or "make" them loyal. Good luck with your adolescent worldview, though.

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring in money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

[Auraliea]

Originally Posted by Jobster

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring and money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

Think about it this way....

Despite what your experience tells you.....you have to remember there are millions upon millions of women on this planet.

You have barely scratched the surface, if at all. So simply believing "that" is how it is for most of us is illogical and unrealistic.

[Ruth4Truth]

Originally Posted by Jobster

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring and money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

You do realize, though, that in-between those two extremes, there are a lot of normal, emotionally healthy, stable and happy people, right? Good people.

[Jobster]

Originally Posted by Metaphysique

Perhaps of your environment based on your perceptions and lived experiences. That's still called anecdotal evidence. There are many others who have different experiences.

Yeah, I know what you mean. I'm kind of just talking out of my own personal frustration. Not because of this, of course, but in general due to my behavior, but that's not relevant to this.

Well, it's slightly relevant, but I don't really like to expose anything that I'm going through on here.

[Metaphysique]

Originally Posted by Jobster

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring in money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

Case in point: choose and do better, or heck, choose a different type. It ain't that hard.

"Girls I know like a little edge." Fixed it for you.

While you're observant of the women in your environment, that leaves out millions of others who fall outside your lived experiences.

Can't say "edge" has ever been on my radar of must-have traits in a partner.

[homina12]

Originally Posted by Jobster

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring in money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

There are ways to be endearingly nervous as hell. That man may not appeal to many women, but it does appeal to some. And as Ruth said, we're almost talking about cardboard cut out characters here, and not real, nuanced people.

[Jobster]

Originally Posted by Metaphysique

Case in point: choose and do better, or heck, choose a different type. It ain't that hard.

"Girls I know like a little edge." Fixed it for you.

While you're observant of the women in your environment, that leaves out millions of others who fall outside your lived experiences.

Can't say "edge" has ever been on my radar of must-have traits in a partner.

How do you know? A game player doesn't reveal his edge.

[BellaLind]

Originally Posted by Jobster

You can still have a good career or job or whatever it is that you do to bring in money and be a "bad boy."

It's something that's internalized. In my experience, girls like a little edge. They like somebody that's not scared.

I don't know. I think that's how it is. The opposite of not scared is nervous as hell.

Never been a nervous as hell guy in the history of the planet that's ever been laid.

How is it a nervous guy isn’t a “nice guy” and a confident guy is a “bad boy?” If that’s the label, I think some men don’t really know the meaning of the word, “bad.”

[SwedishViking]

Funny how buthurt some people get from generalizations in threads like these. Generalization exist for a reason, by large as unique as some of us think we are, there ain't no special snowflakes.
Some of us are just slightly more [bleep] than the rest.