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Have you been or are you in a relationship where the person can just "go off" For instance, your SO is in a bad mood about something and he/she takes a glass and throws in on the floor? I'm talking about tempers in general.
If so, how do you real with it and how do you feel being in a relationship with someone that does this?
Take it from me, a former EMT, I've been on emergency calls where I found out that the physical abuse actually started from a person throwing/breaking something on the floor or against a wall. Not a pretty sight! Having a "temper tantrum" is one thing, but when it progresses into throwing/breaking things......that's when that "temper" has gone OUT OF CONTROL!!
How to deal with this? I truely think the person seeing someone like this has to ask themselves "why am I seeing this person?".
All I can say is..........Good Luck AND Be Careful!!
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Originally Posted by Deja Vu Again
Have you been or are you in a relationship where the person can just "go off" For instance, your SO is in a bad mood about something and he/she takes a glass and throws in on the floor? I'm talking about tempers in general.
If so, how do you real with it and how do you feel being in a relationship with someone that does this?
How did I deal with it. I divorced him after 10+ years of marriage and three children.......It would get so bad I would wish he would hit me so I would have a "real" reason to leave him. Scary situation.....he still tries to control me today!!!!
Yup. But not any more. Someone else can deal with that... I got sick of being blindsided and walking on eggshells just in case today was "the big day". Never anything physical, but just general craziness, usually without any advanced notice.
Avoid people who do not know how to control themselves emotionally. People with tempers usually end up doing something that they, and society, regrets. Huge turnoff. Would not be a part of my life in any way.
Have you been or are you in a relationship where the person can just "go off" For instance, your SO is in a bad mood about something and he/she takes a glass and throws in on the floor? I'm talking about tempers in general.
If so, how do you real with it and how do you feel being in a relationship with someone that does this?
Again, I am not talking about physical abuse.
Very often temper tantrums and breaking things escalate to physical abuse.
I dont believe that such believe is tolerable. A person who has violent outbursts whenever they are upset is unable to control his actions when emotional. This kind of person will end up hitting you eventually. Needs anger management or for you to leave.
We had 1 incident that got out of control and I packed my things and went to my mothers house. I told him I would not return unless he went to anger management.
We even went to a counselor together and that was a complete waste of time. The counselor was awful and gave me no strategies and basically talked to my husband like he was a little child.
I think he picked this behavior up from his parents because they both are loony. I don't tolerate fits from my kids and they don't have tantrums.
I usually ignore my husband when he has one (unless he is driving).
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