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Old 11-06-2010, 05:35 PM
 
Location: DFW
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Telling someone that you have a prior working engagement would be honest, and it would also be respectful of your gal's feelings. If you feel like you have to give such details, then I'd agree with the "jerk" assessment.
EP, here is your answer.

A wise man knows how to present things to people so they know just what you want them to know. You must have never had kids. When a kid asks you "Where Babies come from" they only need to hear the bare basics not the whole details.

People and girlfriends are the same. You just needed to tell her "Baby, I'd love to join you but crap, I've got too work all day"

You were looking for trouble.
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Old 11-06-2010, 06:28 PM
 
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if someone asks me what im doing ill tell them. im always honest!



god i hope not. even if we were its not like im having sex with the models or anythign like that



your welcome bud
Nothing wrong with honesty, brutal honesty is not always appropriate, tact can go a long way.
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Old 11-06-2010, 07:13 PM
 
Location: DFW
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Nothing wrong with honesty, brutal honesty is not always appropriate, tact can go a long way.
There are many versions of the truth.
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Old 11-06-2010, 07:22 PM
 
Location: southwest TN
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Ep, you need to learn some diplomacy.

"Would you like to do something Sunday?"

"Ooh, sorry. I'm busy Sunday. How about [day that it's good for you]?"

THEN SHUT UP. If you've only been dating a little while and you are not exclusive, you don't need to get into all of the gory details.
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Telling someone that you have a prior working engagement would be honest, and it would also be respectful of your gal's feelings. If you feel like you have to give such details, then I'd agree with the "jerk" assessment.
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EP, here is your answer.

A wise man knows how to present things to people so they know just what you want them to know. You must have never had kids. When a kid asks you "Where Babies come from" they only need to hear the bare basics not the whole details.

People and girlfriends are the same. You just needed to tell her "Baby, I'd love to join you but crap, I've got too work all day"

You were looking for trouble.


I frequently lack tact in my directness, but I do try to never hurt someone with the truth. What you did, OP, was to take the truth and use it like a bat. You hit her with the truth.

Since it is work, say it's work. Good grief!
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Old 11-06-2010, 08:53 PM
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eh if she cant take the truth now she prob cant take it later.
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Old 11-06-2010, 09:17 PM
 
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There are many versions of the truth.
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eh if she cant take the truth now she prob cant take it later.
See above. Polish your style and use your words carefully.
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Old 11-06-2010, 09:26 PM
 
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There are many versions of the truth.
Got that right & a person with character knows when & how to apply them.
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Old 11-06-2010, 11:51 PM
 
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Lol Ep, from how you seem to not accept the commenters advice on tact, i say you ARE being a jerk. Oh well girls find jerks hot, keep at it.
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Old 11-07-2010, 06:22 AM
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Lol Ep, from how you seem to not accept the commenters advice on tact, i say you ARE being a jerk. Oh well girls find jerks hot, keep at it.
she called me last night and said good luck with everythign and wed have to do something during hte week.

just as i expected everything to happen
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