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i was engaged to a man for over 2 yrs. i never slept with him until after he proposed. he then lived here on and off. he had a home of his home that needed so much work and promised to fix it up a little, so it was livable.
so he kept helping out with my rent, yet he would do nothing with his home and never mention marraige. after over two years this man is acting like he just wants to be by himself, he even brought up to me that he keeps trying to ask women out yet no one says yes..
i'm tired of him coming back and trying to use me for one thing, when he lied about commitment and marraige and fixing up his home. I think i built his self confidence, and now he has more friends, and is less introverted than when i met him. i just wish i could forget about how he lied to me and hurt me, i thought he was a nice guy and would never do this to me..wrong.
i am almost 50 and he's 52, i am just tired of the dating scene at my age. i've been single for 15 yrs, mostly because i'm shy and a homebody...i really trusted this man, and i thought he was kind. he's no longer kind. he's a selfish and a mean person. what if he calls, what should i say, or if he comes around...i don't know what to do anymore~ thankyou.
Gina it's hard to say since noone can read minds...there is a good chance he was just using you or he is at a point in his life where he is not sure what he wants. In any case it's up to you to put your foot down...you can only be used if you let yourself be used. If he is playing you and pursuing other women while acting like he still wants you...then kick him to the curb for good.
I think you already know the answer. He needs to see the other side of the door. and you need to move on.
Now for you. a homebody and shy... what has that gotten you? want to keep enjoying the benefits those traits bring to you?
Get your A$$ out of the house, and do things. find classes, hobbies, art, theater, music, anything that will get you out of the routine that is your life. make your self interested in other things and as a result become more outgoing. ... don't even think about giving me an excuse to remain the same way. You don't like where you are at... make a change. anything is better than being the booty call for some arsehole.
You need to be too busy for him. You can be nice - when he calls, you say you're sorry, no time for talking and hang up. Don't dwell on it - like others said, get out of the house, volunteer or get a job, do something productive.
so he kept helping out with my rent, yet he would do nothing with his home and never mention marraige. after over two years this man is acting like he just wants to be by himself, he even brought up to me that he keeps trying to ask women out yet no one says yes..
Thats when I would have looked him in the eye and said,"no wonder, you jerk. You are supposed to be engaged to me..now hit the road!"
i was engaged to a man for over 2 yrs. i never slept with him until after he proposed. he then lived here on and off. he had a home of his home that needed so much work and promised to fix it up a little, so it was livable.
so he kept helping out with my rent, yet he would do nothing with his home and never mention marraige. after over two years this man is acting like he just wants to be by himself, he even brought up to me that he keeps trying to ask women out yet no one says yes..
i'm tired of him coming back and trying to use me for one thing, when he lied about commitment and marraige and fixing up his home. I think i built his self confidence, and now he has more friends, and is less introverted than when i met him. i just wish i could forget about how he lied to me and hurt me, i thought he was a nice guy and would never do this to me..wrong.
i am almost 50 and he's 52, i am just tired of the dating scene at my age. i've been single for 15 yrs, mostly because i'm shy and a homebody...i really trusted this man, and i thought he was kind. he's no longer kind. he's a selfish and a mean person. what if he calls, what should i say, or if he comes around...i don't know what to do anymore~ thankyou.
You need to keep the same words you have written here in your mind everytime you begin to weaken and accept him back. The best way to get over this is to stay p*ssed until you are no longer mad or sad but glad you dodged a bullet. I know it's hard to get over someone you've had faith in and trusted to do the right thing. But you can't allow him to eat away at anymore of your life. So think about all the times he's used you, lied to you, HAD THE NERVE TO SAY THIS "he even brought up to me that he keeps trying to ask women out yet no one says yes.." I mean really...what are you chopped liver?? That comment shows how little he thinks of you...so add that one to the list.
I wish you the best but don't let someone so cold, clueless and cowardly turn you away from seeking companionship. I guarantee you, he will see his treatment of you come to pass. Until then, enjoy life and if you do get to see karma bite him in the a**, take out the champagne, take a sip, smile really wide and keep on living!!
i was engaged to a man for over 2 yrs. i never slept with him until after he proposed. he then lived here on and off. he had a home of his home that needed so much work and promised to fix it up a little, so it was livable.
so he kept helping out with my rent, yet he would do nothing with his home and never mention marraige. after over two years this man is acting like he just wants to be by himself, he even brought up to me that he keeps trying to ask women out yet no one says yes..
i'm tired of him coming back and trying to use me for one thing, when he lied about commitment and marraige and fixing up his home. I think i built his self confidence, and now he has more friends, and is less introverted than when i met him. i just wish i could forget about how he lied to me and hurt me, i thought he was a nice guy and would never do this to me..wrong.
i am almost 50 and he's 52, i am just tired of the dating scene at my age. i've been single for 15 yrs, mostly because i'm shy and a homebody...i really trusted this man, and i thought he was kind. he's no longer kind. he's a selfish and a mean person. what if he calls, what should i say, or if he comes around...i don't know what to do anymore~ thankyou.
Repeat this mantra over and over again until you fully accept it:
You listed a lot of negatives, i think this relationship is over. He certainly seems to think so. You should move on and improve your own life. Let him be a jerk far away by himself.
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