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The difference there is that the enemy know that you may kill them. So there's nothing to apologize for. But I think the point the poster was making is that people who refuse to apologize because they think it makes them look weak are actually demonstrating their weakness by worrying more about how they look. Very rarely will you see a leader admit to his or her mistake. Why? Because they think it'll make them look weak. But I have more respect for the one who does. It tells me that he's strong enough to do what's right and not worry about what others will think of him.
The difference there is that the enemy know that you may kill them. So there's nothing to apologize for. But I think the point the poster was making is that people who refuse to apologize because they think it makes them look weak are actually demonstrating their weakness by worrying more about how they look. Very rarely will you see a leader admit to his or her mistake. Why? Because they think it'll make them look weak. But I have more respect for the one who does. It tells me that he's strong enough to do what's right and not worry about what others will think of him.
On a related note---I can't work up a great deal of enthusiasm for 'leaders'/politicians and celebrities, particularly who 'do the right thing' and apologize publicly for some type of outrageous behavior. If this is a PR person's idea of 'repairing image' --as I frequently hear--then I question the sincerity.
Some people seem to have trouble saying "I'm sorry" because they don't want to admit to making any mistakes. Have you noticed this? How do you feel about it?....We all make mistakes at times and our so-called "right" may be someone else's "wrong."...Defensive people must view it as a sign of weakness to admit that they might be "wrong" in what they've said and "wrong" in the way they have been dealing with someone else...Maybe we have fears that people will take advantage of us if we appear "soft." What do you think? Thanks.
I let my actions speak for me. At one point in my life I said I was sorry a lot and didn't mean it.
What does it mean to be sensitive or insensitive? A lot of people sure love sarcasm. It seems like part of their culture...In their minds it's probably "all done in fun" and they don't mean harm to anyone...But a lot of sarcastic statements sure sound like put-downs and can be mean and hurtful...Have you noticed this? Part of being sensitive is considering how other people might be affected by what we say or do...We're all individuals and things affect us in different ways. Don't you think?
Certainly. Personally, 'sarcasm' isn't that thrilling to me anymore. A little goes a long way. Pop culture does place a premium on cynicism.
Also, you and I are probably envisioning very different scenarios. I was thinking of behavior/an action--which one might regret, rather than words--although words can be very hurtful.
I have no trouble saying I'm sorry. It's a good way to mend things so you can move on. (Even if you aren't totally in the wrong!) Accepting that you play a part even if only a small part in some infraction helps open lines of communication. But I think people who have control issues avoid apologizing. I think they feel more in control if they convince themselves that they're always right even when they're not!
I have no trouble saying I'm sorry. It's a good way to mend things so you can move on. (Even if you aren't totally in the wrong!) Accepting that you play a part even if only a small part in some infraction helps open lines of communication. But I think people who have control issues avoid apologizing. I think they feel more in control if they convince themselves that they're always right even when they're not!
Maybe so--I've known several people like this. It just seems to me if there is a problem it is better to have some sort of discussion --maybe an apology isn't what is needed? Just the clearing of the air/establishing better communication--at any rate it isn't difficult for me to try to make amends.
I'm thinking it's a lot easier to say I'm sorry when I don't really mean it. I can't really remember a recent time when I've done something that I truly regret, but yet I say I'm sorry all the time.
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Yes it is. Much easier than living with myself if I don't.
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