Did he lose her for good? (date, how to, marry, woman)
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My friend is a shy, socially inept middle age guy. He is barely holding on to a dead end job. In other words, he is sort of a loser. The lady who lived across the street from him wanted him to marry her daughter who is a divorced middle age with a teenage daughter. She is a doctor who is beautiful, successful and intelligent. She lives in another part of town.
He was confused and terrified that someone like her would take an interest in him. His immediate thought was that he isn't good enough for her. So he told the mother that he was not interested without explaining his fears. That must have broken her heart because she didn't even look at him the next time he went to her house.
The mother died recently. He didn't even go to her funeral. He wanted to though. He asked a distraught member of her family for the date, but the guy said he didn't know. I suspect if he really wanted to go, he would have.
The daughter doesn't come by the house anymore now that her mother is gone. Now the guy realizes he might have lost the best thing that could have happened to him. He wants to ask her for another chance. What should he do? Should he be given another chance?
At the risk of being trite, hindsight is 20/20 especially on lost opportunities.
Sure, it would be reasonable to try and make a date with the woman by calling her, but does he even know how to get in touch with her since she doesn't come around anymore? It doesn't mean, however, that she would accept.
Does the daughter know that her mother was trying to fix her up?
This situation seems to have been discussed between the mother and your friend without the daughter's knowledge? Seems kinda odd.
I think she does. They met when she fell and sprained her ankles while walking on the street. He picked her up and carried her home. The question came up a few days later.
I think she does. They met when she fell and sprained her ankles while walking on the street. He picked her up and carried her home. The question came up a few days later.
I can see, from this statement, how the mother would have been put off by his lack of interest seeing as how he'd already seen her and met her and his rejection of the idea came across as a rejection or lack of interest in the daughter. I thought, originally, they had never seen each other. It's a small matter of communication and interpretation. He should definitely call her.
Did he carry the mother or the daughter home? If it was the daughter and a few days later the mother makes her suggestion that they get together, then obviously the daughter liked him when he helped her out. If it's the mother he carried home then the daughter might not have known much about the set up at all.
Either way though he might as well give it a shot like everyone is saying he has nothing to lose!
My friend is a shy, socially inept middle age guy. He is barely holding on to a dead end job. In other words, he is sort of a loser. The lady who lived across the street from him wanted him to marry her daughter who is a divorced middle age with a teenage daughter. She is a doctor who is beautiful, successful and intelligent. She lives in another part of town.
He was confused and terrified that someone like her would take an interest in him. His immediate thought was that he isn't good enough for her. So he told the mother that he was not interested without explaining his fears. That must have broken her heart because she didn't even look at him the next time he went to her house.
What makes this guy a loser? Is he chronicly underemployed? Or did he fall on hard times recently? Why was he terrified? Did he assume she would reject him or does he have something even worse than financial problems? How would the mother imagine him marrying her daughter when they only met once?
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