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Old 11-15-2010, 07:34 AM
 
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Dating/relationship requires work to initiate, to maintain, and to end. Regardless of its nature, whether you are playing any kind of game at one extreme or you are true/loyal to your date/significant other/spouse at the opposite extreme, it will require work/effort.

Sorry, no free lunch.
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Old 11-15-2010, 08:24 AM
 
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Im a young guy in my twenties and Im currently single. To me, dating and everything just seems exausting. Dont get me wrong, I like to go out and party and have fun but its like I would just like to skip ahead about fifteen yrs. have a good women to love and chrerish, have a small family and just be done with it. I realize you cant have a wife without dating but realy? I dont want to go out there and play all these games that are being played by my generation nowadays. Is this normal???
not everyone in your generation IS playing games.You say "dating and everything" is exausting to you? if THAT's exausting to you, you'd better think twice about the family you say you want.You sound to me like you want it all, but you don't want to do ANYTHING for it, ...makes me wonder what kind of husband and father you would be ..
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Old 11-15-2010, 08:30 AM
 
Location: Back in the gym...Yo Adrian!
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Your best bet is going to be to meet women who have a walk with God and desire values, morals, and ethics for her life ; you can often find this variety at larger church Singles Ministries , Christian Online Dating, and Christian Dating magazines .
Or find one who walks with Mickey Mouse. Stay away from Donald Duck though, he's the anti-christ.
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Old 11-15-2010, 08:38 AM
 
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not everyone in your generation IS playing games.You say "dating and everything" is exausting to you? if THAT's exausting to you, you'd better think twice about the family you say you want.You sound to me like you want it all, but you don't want to do ANYTHING for it, ...makes me wonder what kind of husband and father you would be ..
Good point. Marriage, a family, and kids are nice but require a lot of selfless sacrifice.
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Old 11-15-2010, 08:40 AM
 
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Im a young guy in my twenties and Im currently single. To me, dating and everything just seems exausting. Dont get me wrong, I like to go out and party and have fun but its like I would just like to skip ahead about fifteen yrs. have a good women to love and chrerish, have a small family and just be done with it. I realize you cant have a wife without dating but realy? I dont want to go out there and play all these games that are being played by my generation nowadays. Is this normal???

well, here's the thing..

if you don't care what she looks like, then sure, you can find exactly what you want, and it will be simple and easy.

if you're a normal twentysomething male, you're somewhat of a slave to your biology.

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Old 11-15-2010, 08:40 AM
 
Location: Whiteville Tennessee
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Im a young guy in my twenties and Im currently single. To me, dating and everything just seems exausting. Dont get me wrong, I like to go out and party and have fun but its like I would just like to skip ahead about fifteen yrs. have a good women to love and chrerish, have a small family and just be done with it. I realize you cant have a wife without dating but realy? I dont want to go out there and play all these games that are being played by my generation nowadays. Is this normal???
You should just marry lisalan! You wont even have to ever let her see your butt!
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Old 11-15-2010, 09:11 AM
 
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Find someone conservative with good family life. Perhaps they have more similar goals to you. BTW if you think your problems are over when your married, I'd disagree. Thats when all the problems you didnt have while you were dating come out.
Getting married simply opens up a new set of problems versus singleness ; you MAY increase your pleasure but you definetly increase problems or the potential for them. If someone isnt patient or doesnt like to negotiate / surrender much...then marriage is most likely not for you.
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Old 11-15-2010, 12:11 PM
 
Location: lost in the USA
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not everyone in your generation IS playing games.You say "dating and everything" is exausting to you? if THAT's exausting to you, you'd better think twice about the family you say you want.You sound to me like you want it all, but you don't want to do ANYTHING for it, ...makes me wonder what kind of husband and father you would be ..
Ok, I think you took it the wrong way but whatever. Its not that I dont want to do anything for it. I cant explain in a way you might understand better but hey, if your comfortable passing judgments on someone you dont even know by reading a post that says, hey, im a mature guy at a young age and want to settle down already, well then thats your biz. Its pretty apparent what type of guy or girl your into, wonder how many times you have been dumped, cheated on, lied to, etc. { See, I can pass judgments too ! }
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Old 11-15-2010, 03:56 PM
 
Location: Pennsylvania
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Yeah I think it's different from the norm. Seems like most people your age are just interested in ****ing like wild rabbits with a new person each week. I get how you feel though, I'd like to just press 'skip' and end up with "the one" and not have to deal with the bull**** that is dating.
What he said!!!! I mean it's great to learn and meet people but yeah, I'm ready to press fast forward to the good part now.
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Old 11-15-2010, 07:15 PM
 
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I'd be very interested in your opinion or ideas of what kind of "guy or girl" you think I'd be interested in. Bare in mind I've been happily married for 35 years..You did ask for another's opinion on weather you're normal or not..I think you're perfectly normal thinking like you do. but perhaps a little unrealistic..And beleive me when I say , I did not pass judgement on you, and most certainly did not mean to offend you.
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