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I believe the answer is that a 60 year old man has had many years to experience women of all ages and has discovered that women of about 40 who have taken care of themselves are at their pinnacle.
Have only read through the end of page 3 so far, but...
What if it's because women under 40 generally won't go out with 60-year-old men...no matter how much money those men have? What if 25- and 30-year-olds just...squick out at the thought of having sex with Uncle Louie or Grandpa? What if (gasp) it's because women actually have choices and don't *have* to over-settle to this extent?
(Generally. There are Anna Nicholes, obviously. Don't know if I'm spelling that right. But we're talking about the real world here, I'm presuming...not multi-billionaires.)
I mean I don't see yet that anyone has considered the woman might actually have a choice in the matter. Nor that most under-40s (if not older!) would feel, well, slightly queasy at the thought of having sex with their grandfathers.
What if these 60-year-old guys believed the "Money trumps everything! You can be as old as you want, and 25-year-olds will still want you" thing, so they started hunting around and realized that almost no matter how much money they had, they couldn't entice the average self-respecting much younger woman to go out with them...so they went as young as they feasibly *could* (and perhaps that even took some hunting)?
I mean just a thought. Of course it assumes that women actually have a choice in who we date (sarcasm...and a sigh).
ETA: FWIW, I lived 11 miles outside of Manhattan for greater than 35 years and I certainly didn't see a huge number of near-senior citizens dating 40-year-olds. Occasionally? Sure. Predominantly? No way. The overwhelming majority of couples 40 and up dated fairly close to their own age range, though none was literally wealthy (one, my second father, was fairly close, though...he was two years younger than my mother and they married in their 30s).
But maybe things have changed drastically in the five years since I moved away.
*Or* maybe it's a matter of seeing what keeps us in our own belief systems and ignoring the rest... Who knows?
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Have only read through the end of page 3 so far, but...
What if it's because women under 40 generally won't go out with 60-year-old men...no matter how much money those men have? What if 25- and 30-year-olds just...squick out at the thought of having sex with Uncle Louie or Grandpa? What if (gasp) it's because women actually have choices and don't *have* to over-settle to this extent?
(Generally. There are Anna Nicholes, obviously. Don't know if I'm spelling that right. But we're talking about the real world here, I'm presuming...not multi-billionaires.)
I mean I don't see yet that anyone has considered the woman might actually have a choice in the matter. Nor that most under-40s (if not older!) would feel, well, slightly queasy at the thought of having sex with their grandfathers.
What if these 60-year-old guys believed the "Money trumps everything! You can be as old as you want, and 25-year-olds will still want you" thing, so they started hunting around and realized that almost no matter how much money they had, they couldn't entice the average self-respecting much younger woman to go out with them...so they went as young as they feasibly *could* (and perhaps that even took some hunting)?
I mean just a thought. Of course it assumes that women actually have a choice in who we date (sarcasm...and a sigh).
According to what I'm reading and experience in my own life I'm taking a guess that the 60 year old men know that a 20 year old would be all about the money vs the 40 year old who probably ahs her own money.
Who? The woman your age? Could you elaborate some more, please?
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Here come the angry feminists who have to insert their agenda into every thread that relates to a woman's age... sorry ladies but this thread isn't about what you have seen and what you personally feel is right. Nor is it about what does the average 20, 30 or 40 year old woman think about dating a 60 year old.
It is about the motivations behind a certain type of person: 60 year old men who actively date 40 year old women and why that is their choice.
Here come the angry feminists who have to insert their agenda into every thread that relates to a woman's age... sorry ladies but this thread isn't about what you have seen and what you personally feel is right. Nor is it about what does the average 20, 30 or 40 year old woman think about dating a 60 year old.
It is about the motivations behind a certain type of person: 60 year old men who actively date 40 year old women and why that is their choice.
I tried to rep you.... you know the drill...... good post here.
Now that I am paying a little more attention to what is going on in the dating world, I note that here in NYC a lot of single men who are around the age of 60 are all about women who are 40. This includes the really wealthy ones - we have a lot of those in this city. These guys have enough money to attract women in their mid to late 20s if that is what they want (and of course according to City Data that's what most men want.) Why have they decided that 40 is the sweet spot?
Is it because - its as young as they can date and not look ridiculous going out to dinner or introducing her to business associates & friends?
Is it because - they want to go younger as all men do, but find that intellectually/emotionally, going any younger than 40 is difficult?
Is it because - they want to go younger, but want a more experienced lover?
Or none of the above?
I asked this of someone buried on another thread, but then decided to open it up to the floor.
Women in their 40s really are in their prime. But if I were 40 again, I'd be going after a younger man rather than an older fellow. I'm sure that the money issue has a lot to do with it. Thank goodness for Viagra.
Here's another motivation I just thought of. Could it be that they know the end is coming soon enough, and want to find a woman young enough to take care of them as they decline, but mature enough to be able to handle making medical decisions and the general shi*t**ness that comes with watching the march toward the grave? Are they planning ahead?
I think its funny when some old school upright people get shocked at our age difference.
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Nor that most under-40s (if not older!) would feel, well, slightly queasy at the thought of having sex with their grandfathers.
