Levels of cheating should be distinguish

[foxywench]

i would never be in a polyamourous relationship...

i dont play well with others.

when im with a person im with THAT person...
not that guy unless im not in the mood for that person...
belive me, this is a situation that comes up often for me in relationships because im openly bisexual (everyone automatically assumes bi means into open relationships) and i just cant do it, ive been involved in 3 somes and the idea of an "open" relationship...

but the idea doesnt apeal to me...3 somes are just not my thing (and always lead to muddled-ness in my experience) and im not big into sharing.
in my PERSONAL opinion a relationship is between 2 people...
not 2 people unless your bored with your partner then can sleep with some other person...

for those in open relationships and it works for them...good for them.

i personally however, couldnt do it.
(but i also have issues with casual sex in general, i just cant bring myself to sleep with someone unless i truly LOVE them)

so for me at least, since cheating would never be on my list of "ok" things (and im always very clear about my line when a relationship is starting up...) that whole "he said it was ok" would never come up.


i do want to add however, that if both parties are in agreence to an open relationship...i dont consider it cheating...

cheating is when your partner goes out behind your back, sneaks around, and sleeps around without your permission...
if your in an open relationship, as long as your partner is ok with who your sleepig with and your safe about it, its NOT cheating.

[danielpalos]

Thanks for sharing.