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I'm a tall woman (between 5'11" - 6'). My fiance is 5'8", which I believe is about average for a man. He treats me like gold. He gives me anything I want as long as he can afford it. He makes me feel beautiful. He's very funny. We're best friends as well as lovers. And he can cook and clean. I consider him a catch. We're getting married in less than a year.
The problem is that some family members are very rude about the fact that he's shorter. They've called him an elf. One person told me that he better wear shoe lifts so that our photos are not ruined. Another person told me that she didn't know why such a smart and beautiful girl was wasting her time with someone like him. At the time I said that I was not settling.
At this point, I don't know what to do. Part of me wants to say don't come to the wedding if that is your attitude. I find it ironic that those who seem so against my fiance and I are either single, divorced, or in unhappy marriages. What should I do? Should I make a big deal about it and not invite them to the wedding?
He treats me like gold. He gives me anything I want as long as he can afford it. He makes me feel beautiful. He's very funny. We're best friends as well as lovers. And he can cook and clean. I consider him a catch.
You sounds like somewhat of a gold digger with those statements. What do you for him?
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Originally Posted by Sam82
The problem is that some family members are very rude about the fact that he's shorter. They've called him an elf. One person told me that he better wear shoe lifts so that our photos are not ruined. Another person told me that she didn't know why such a smart and beautiful girl was wasting her time with someone like him. Should I make a big deal about it and not invite them to the wedding?
If you do go ahead with the wedding, definitely don't invite these clods. And when they rant about not receiving an invitation, be upfront about why they're not invited.
People are shallow. Either that or they are jealous. I wouldn't invite those people to my wedding if they were acting like that. You don't need to listen to people like that let alone even take what they are saying seriously.
You sounds like somewhat of a gold digger with those statements. What do you for him?
If you do go ahead with the wedding, definitely don't invite these clods. And when they rant about not receiving an invitation, be upfront about why they're not invited.
LOL. A gold digger? I make more than him. We pay equal percentages of living expenses (so I pay more). I was trying to get across that he treats me well. I do the majority of the cooking, the laundry, and an equal amount of cleaning. The whole point was to express how great he treats me.
I've never been called a gold digger before. I guess there's a first time for everything.
Why wouldn't we go ahead with the wedding? I'm really confused.
It didn't come across like that in your OP. It was all about what he does for you.
Maybe I'm tired and that's why I'm confused. The whole point of explaining all of the wonderful things he does was to make it clear that I'm not settling. My family has no reason to think that he's not perfect for me. I would consider what I do for him irrelevant to this discussion.
Since you mentioned it, I treat him equally as well. He often says that I'm the best thing that has ever happened to him. And I feel the same about him.
I wouldn't tell em to miss the wedding cus that really will damage your relationship with them and also turn the whole issue into even a bigger deal. I would just invite them and be nice to them. The best way to get revenge on that is to treat them nice when they treat you poorly, and show them how well your marriage succeeds when theirs has failed.
I agree with Victorhe. Invite them, treat them well, and let them see how happy you are together. They'll figure it out eventually.
Or don't. It's your wedding, and if they won't add to your special day, let them eat *their own* cake.
But that could lead to more friction in the family. If you and your fiance can handle their crude jokes and laugh with them, that would be the best. It's all up to you.
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I didn't read it like that at all.
