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HAHAHA this thread is absolutely precious!
Honestly its not that hard. You just have to create and set the mood.
Honestly this is normally how I do it, and I like to keep it absolutely classy:
- Upscale Dinner
- Movies
- The drive back to my apartment in Downtown Austin
- The 2 minutes of conversation taking place in front of the door of the apartment building
- The walk and chat to the apartment unit
- Have something to drink and chat for 20 minutes in the living Room (mostly about her)
- Set the mood with a neck, back, & ear massage
And then it gets time to go to the bedroom. For me its as simple as that. I just like to keep it mature actually.
Conversations normally are with me teasing a little bit, asking questions about her and her interests, paying attention and making it clear attention is being paid with a few distractions just to throw her off, a few jokes, and a few talks about things in common and stuff.
Eh that's just my summary. Nice and happy is the way to go!
Okay, I'd like some opinions because I don't have the energy to analyze.
There's this guy that I've recently been seeing. He's older than me... has a fairly prominent position. Enough to where he can't have scandal attached to his name.
Technically, we've been on 3 "dates." The first was not meant to be a date and we met randomly through a friend, but it ended up being a 6 hour ordeal. The second date lasted until 1:30 in the morning - another 6 hour ordeal. And the third date... we had sex. He didn't push it, although he clearly wanted to... both of us kept our clothes on until I gave the "go" signal.
Before we had sex, I literally could not keep this guy off of me. He would refrain himself in public when people were watching, but we're talking prolonged making out at every possible chance. I don't think I've ever made out this much since my high school days... hell, I felt like I was in high school lol!
However, after sex, the constant making out was replaced with kisses. Everything else was the same, he was still saying how sexy I was and etc..... but he wasn't mauling me every other second like he has been the entire time before.
Am I just being silly? I've never really noticed this with a guy before. Is it because now that the horniness is gone, he can just be a normal adult again?
I'm pretty wary of casual sex territory, but I stumbled upon incredible lust and it's quite hard to resist.
Were you born yesterday? This is always happens after the guy gets what he wants and you're not in a commited relationship. WTF?
What does Mango expect? You go to bed with a guy after 2 dates and admit you just want a physical relationship. So what's the problem? He screwed you and dumped you. Long-term relationships based on trust, love and common interests generally don't arise after a one-night stand.
No do I. Mango asked a relatively simple question. I don't think she's looking for morality or religion, just honest opinions. I wouldn't think any less of a woman or a man, for asking what she wanted to know. No big deal in my books.
No, he's not currently married and hasn't been for a while. I know this for a fact. He's not evasive about himself at all. But please don't label me as the "young naive girl who believes any man with an ounce of charm." I may be young and I am naive in certain aspects, but I know that people will put on a show to get what they want (hell, I do it sometimes) and trust is something that comes with time and proven actions.
Hi mango tango,
This is perhaps why people are reacting in such a way. Perhaps you are naive in this regard since this implies you being a sideline. Perhaps you did not mean ti imply this. If its not that, then so be it but it seems a strange thing to post about him if it were not relevant. What is scandalous about having a girlfriend? I believe the prevailing wisdom is "not to be caught with a dead girl or a live boy". You are a live girl aren't you?
There's this guy that I've recently been seeing. He's older than me... has a fairly prominent position. Enough to where he can't have scandal attached to his name.
Casual sex cant emotionally or ultimately fulfill you because it wasnt designed to ; God has a better plan for you and no one is ever sorry for following it. Regards.
That depends on how the people treat each other. While I'll admit a long term relationship can grow bonds between two people together in a way a short term can't, a person in your life if even briefly or not constant, can have a positive effect depending. I don't expect you to understand that possibility, but then again god sometimes works in mysterious ways right?, and with faith always has a way of coming through for a person, and it could be by being a fast burning supernova not always as a slow burning candle.
Other than that the only other thing I have to say in this thread is since long ago one time seeing mango's pic, I feel a slight jealously toward her man.
This is perhaps why people are reacting in such a way. Perhaps you are naive in this regard since this implies you being a sideline. Perhaps you did not mean ti imply this. If its not that, then so be it but it seems a strange thing to post about him if it were not relevant. What is scandalous about having a girlfriend? I believe the prevailing wisdom is "not to be caught with a dead girl or a live boy". You are a live girl aren't you?
There's this guy that I've recently been seeing. He's older than me... has a fairly prominent position. Enough to where he can't have scandal attached to his name.
Point understood. That comment was irrelevant and I was simply trying to give a brief background.
I'm gonna be pretty direct here: you're a jerk. There's nothing wrong with choices people make that do not negatively affect you. Did her "sin" negatively affect you?
that's what I thought..
Well people having sex with multiple partners is effecting the human population in a negative way. STD's are on the rise, and new super strains that are resistant to medical treatments are now being reported.
Sorry, none of us live in a closed system, what you do can effect others even if you don't see it happen.
"Recently the Center for Disease Control and Prevention discovered a drug-resistant strain of gonorrhea, previously considered a curable STD that was relatively easy to treat."
For those folks who are now in their 50s, who grew up in a time when having sex was just a fun, recreational activity, 100 is not that big of a deal. I think that I must have broken that mark myself by now.
The world is a very different place than it used to be. For sure.
20yrsinBranson
Yea, to many STD'S!
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