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Old 11-26-2010, 11:14 AM
 
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If someone you have recently met and get along with asked you how you see them, is that a close to definite indicator they are interested in being more than friends? It would seem strange to ask that if they just want to be friends. How do you feel about someone asking you this question?
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Old 11-26-2010, 11:37 AM
 
Location: ATL with a side of Chicago
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Possibly, but since you recently met, she may just be asking if you see her as a friend, not an acquaintance.
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Old 11-26-2010, 11:41 AM
 
Location: In my skin
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Anytime someone has asked me that, it was because they were interested in being more than just friends. I don't mind them asking, once.
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Old 11-26-2010, 11:43 AM
 
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Say that you d ont know how you view her. THen ask her how she views you.
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Old 11-26-2010, 11:45 AM
 
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If someone you have recently met and get along with asked you how you see them, is that a close to definite indicator they are interested in being more than friends? It would seem strange to ask that if they just want to be friends. How do you feel about someone asking you this question?
"We can be friends. . ."

Those were the words of the woman whom is now my love, my soulmate, amor de mi vida.
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Old 11-26-2010, 11:48 AM
 
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"We can be friends. . ."

Those were the words of the woman whom is now my love, my soulmate, amor de mi vida.
Did she say that without you asking what she wanted?
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Old 11-27-2010, 07:22 AM
 
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i think they would only ask if they wanted to get to know you better...sounds like she wants to be more than just friends.
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Old 11-27-2010, 07:39 AM
 
Location: Vegas, baby, Vegas!
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you gotta crawl before you can walk
you gotta walk before you can run
you gotta run before you can fly

Start with friend, even if you end with friend, it still is a good deal

Jonathan
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Old 11-27-2010, 07:44 AM
 
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Did she say that without you asking what she wanted?
She was coming out of a relationship and needed time and space. When I demostrated interest in her, she made herself clear by stating, "we can be friends."

I was patient, and waited. Never pushed or insisted. Gave her time, space, and maintained distance. But precisely from a distance, I everso delicately, lightly, and respectfully made my interest known.

An infrequent invitation to breakfast or lunch. Something casual, not formal. An ambiance where she could feel stress free, and at ease. A moment she might want to repeat on her own terms, if she so pleased.

Breakfast and lunches eventually lead to dinner, and an arm-in-arm stroll down Colorado Boulevard. We gazed at storefront windows and cafe crowds in the cool of the night. Several dinners later, we kissed. . .and have not stopped ever since.
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Old 11-27-2010, 11:31 AM
 
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you gotta crawl before you can walk
you gotta walk before you can run
you gotta run before you can fly

Start with friend, even if you end with friend, it still is a good deal

Jonathan
i've tried running and flapping my arms, but sadly i have never gotten off the ground.
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