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First off, I don't know who in their right mind sits on a bench in a shopping mall crying.
That said, "drama" can be created by anybody, if reacting emotionally consititutes "creating drama." It's not the property of any one gender. "Creating drama" can be throwing on a crying fit in a shopping mall, it can be pouting b/c your girlfriend went out for happy hour with coworkers instead of being home when you got home, it can be giving somebody the silent treatment when you're annoyed that you had to spend the afternoon visiting their relatives instead of doing your own thing, etc.
It appeared as though he had JUST broken up with her, the girl looked about 16, what do you expect?
I DEFINITELY wouldn't use a 16-year old as a measure for "women in relationships," and/or the gender as a whole's propensity for creating drama, that's for sure. I doubt many men would find it accurate to be judged by the actions typical to a teenaged dude, either.
I think he was trying to say that you were actually starting drama with your boyfriend with that convo....
Yes, that is what I thought she was doing. If there has been a pattern of behavior between two people, it does not even take a word to evoke a response. Simply VG drawing her bf attention to the unhappy couple was a signal.
It was implied to your boyfriend you were taking the woman's side when you asked him what are we (women) suppose to do.
Shysister, how many relationships have you been in where you can’t even civilly tell your partner that something he or she has done has hurt you, without that being considered dramatic?
Shysister, how many relationships have you been in where you can’t even civilly tell your partner that something he or she has done has hurt you, without that being considered dramatic?
Ah now we are getting to the point. You can not tell your bf about how he treats you without drama ensuing (him shooting you down, you getting defensive and angered). That tells me a couple of things about your relationship. There is you and there is him.
You both are playing a game. There eventually will be no winner. One or the other would need to change the rules of the game to alter that outcome.
Leave it out. I wasn’t asking about my bf’s reaction, I was asking for opinions on the statement he made. Do you think women create drama in relationships?
Leave it out. I wasn’t asking about my bf’s reaction, I was asking for opinions on the statement he made. Do you think women create drama in relationships?
Here's what you need to ask yourself, VG. How will you feel if a lot of people here vindicate that your BF was "wrong"?
And how will you feel if a lot of people here think he was "right"?
In the second case, you'll only be angrier, except that now you won't just be angry with your BF, you'll be angry with a bunch of people here.
In the first case, you still haven't won anything for your relationship...since you and your BF still disagree.
There's no win here for you or for your BF. Or perhaps more importantly (not just based on this post but on many others), there's now win here for you *with* your BF.
I truly think, based on your posts, anyway, that it's time for you to move on.
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