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I am. I just don't like when people are so close, they're spitting in my face when they talk. =P
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Originally Posted by JerZ
I don't know that people who want/need their personal space are necessarily "not warm." I'm VERY warm...with my family and friends. I'm very touchy-huggy with people I trust and who trust me. (Who? Whom? Why can I never remember that grammar rule?) I'm all over my children like the pox, and I grab for my husband all the time. And they are all free to grab for me (well, in different ways, of course).
I don't think it's a question of a capacity for warmth, personally.
^^^ yes.
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Originally Posted by MattB4
You urban people with your strange notion of "personal space". You people live like sardines in a tin. You know the type with the little metal opener that you break loose from the bottom of the can. Then you laboriously connect to the metal strip on the side and roll it up to separate the top from the body of the tin. At least sardine tins used to work that way.
But JerZ wants controversy to drive this thread into the big times. While Sardines are not loved by all, I do not think the subject would hold anyones attention for long. So instead of little fish we should discuss something people can be passionate about. Space the final frontier?
Theses are the voyages of JerZ's relatives as they seek to conquer her territorial space. Captains log. Stardate 29112010 Captain Mattb4 reporting. The Relative Federation has conducted a provocative act of aggression against the JerZ Alliance. The Galactic Republic has ordered our post to intervene.
"Plot the coordinates to JerZ"
"Ahead Warped post 4" Ms. Nemy
I don't know that people who want/need their personal space are necessarily "not warm." I'm VERY warm...with my family and friends. I'm very touchy-huggy with people I trust and who trust me. (Who? Whom? Why can I never remember that grammar rule?) I'm all over my children like the pox, and I grab for my husband all the time. And they are all free to grab for me (well, in different ways, of course).
I don't think it's a question of a capacity for warmth, personally.
While I agree that some people as those described can be annoying, those concerned too much with their precious "personal space" tend to put me off more.
While I agree that some people as those described can be annoying, those concerned too much with their precious "personal space" tend to put me off more.
If you are my friend, bf(when I have one), or family, you can't really get too close. However, I would rather not see the dental work of a complete stranger or a casual acquaintance. I don't have a certain space that I protect, but I do prefer people not get right in my face to speak to me.
While I agree that some people as those described can be annoying, those concerned too much with their precious "personal space" tend to put me off more.
I was making a joke. I do not actually have crime scene tape around me, or a specific rule for 3 ft vs. 2 ft. If I seriously had issues, I would not be able to do my job.
While I agree that some people as those described can be annoying, those concerned too much with their precious "personal space" tend to put me off more.
...Which means that
a) You and I are different. (As people tend to be.)
b) I, paying attention to you and your cues, *back off* a little and stop pushing at you, when in a situation of being physically close to one another...rather than pushing, pushing, pushing closer and closer and forcing my unwanted (for whatever reason; it doesn't even really matter; you're still within your rights to your own space here...as is anyone) personage on you.
That's the objection, really.
If you (for example; it could be anyone) are "put off" by me, then that's fine. I don't *need* to allow people to violate an area that makes me squirm and allow them to show me their recent dental work in the name of conversation, in order to be liked. I'd rather not be liked by a close-talker/heavy breather, than be liked by everyone...by not being myself.
A long time ago I was working with a co-worker in a very very noisy environment and he had to lean in and yell at me for us to communicate....... This guy had the most gnarly breath I've ever, even to this day had the unpleasure to encounter.
He was yammering at me full speed ahead..... I was about to seriously hurl when at the last second someone called him and he turned away and started talking to them.....
It was like Christmas in July when he turned away.......
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A long time ago I had was working with a co-worker in a very very noisy environment and he had to lean in and yell at me for us to communicate....... This guy had the most gnarly breath I've ever, even to this day had to unpleasure to encounter.
He was yammering at me full speed ahead..... I was about to seriously hurl when at the last second someone called him and he turned away and started talking to them.....
It was like Christmas in July when he turned away.......
Haha, yeah. Seems like those are the people that tend to get right in my face, and the yellow tape moves back to 4...5...6 feet. Or more.
I was making a joke. I do not actually have crime scene tape around me, or a specific rule for 3 ft vs. 2 ft. If I seriously had issues, I would not be able to do my job.
I do!
Okay, just kidding.
Sort of.
Hey, it's very simple. If a person has earned my trust, he or she can probably get close. If not, no touch-y, no breath-ey!
In turn, I wouldn't expect someone who hadn't earned *my* trust to be encouraging of my breathing garlic directly into his or her mouth while grabbing onto his or her arm as if it were a life raft. I don't expect people to withstand my goobering all over them and grabbing for them "affectionately" if we don't click and/or if we're not close. And again, if a person is put off by that, I'm not surprised, since not everyone is alike or has the same boundaries. As Wayne (in Wayne's World) said, "Led Zeppelin didn't try to get everyone to like them. They left that to the Bee Gees!"
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I'm VERY warm...with my family and friends. I'm very touchy-huggy with people I trust and who trust me. (Who? Whom? Why can I never remember that grammar rule?) I'm all over my children like the pox, and I grab for my husband all the time. And they are all free to grab for me (well, in different ways, of course).
