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This guy lives minutes from me. He'll call me asking where I'm at, usually at home when I hear from him. We were friends now I've been trying to break it off by ignoring him and Im not one that likes to ignore calls.
One day I happened to be home because I took the day off from work. He calls me out of the blue asking where I'm at
He pretty much knows my work schedule cause I told him and he avoids contactng me when Im at work
I have no proff that he's stalking and he only calls now usually when he wants something. Im not scared of him. Maybe hes just being annoying
If you don't want him to call - TELL HIM! This is the third thread of yours I've heard about this guy and you "we're friends, but he's the first guy I've ever been with"
You MUST first make it VERY clear you do not want to see or hear from a person before you can even consider it stalking.
"Stalking" is one of THE most over-used and misunderstood words. Real stalking is TERRIFYING. (speaking from experience)
No, he is not stalking you. He's just getting on your nerves.
That's true but a lot of times there are warning signs that someone could turn into a stalker and while it may not be terrifying at that point, it's important not to ignore red flags. If one can recognize them and take precautionary steps ahead of time, they might be able to avoid it reaching a terrifying point. Persistent calling, asking where you are, what you're doing and not getting the obvious hints you're putting across that you don't want to hear from him any more could be an early warning sign. As Thursday says, the OP needs to firmly but gently tell him to stop calling. If it continues after that, I would start by telling my friends and family what is going on and change my phone numbers (since he only seems to be contacting her by phone at the moment). If things escalate instead of ceasing, contact the police and since he lives so close, consider moving. Maybe he's just an annoying guy and she hasn't been clear enough with him - but it can't hurt to be prepared for worse.
why did you tell him your work schedule??You are making yourself too accessable to him. get call display, and if he calls don't answer, hopefully he'll get the message, and if he starts calling you at work, you have reason to be concerned.
For every 2 negative questions you have asked, you now have to start half as many threads with a positive theme. Just so YOU and others understand, this is a self-help technique. It's designed to turn your thinking around. Right now you are focused on negatives - everything. I want to get your mind thinking of positives - in any way. So whether it's a question about how to effect a change to a positive in any area of your life or it's a question whether someone's behavior is a positive thing; that's what I want you to focus on. Once you have reached the half-mark - that is, tally up all your thread starts to date (they have ALL been negative), you have to begin that half that many with this new positive focus. When you are there, I want you to take a day and think. Think about how the positive questions have perhaps caused you to feel just a little lighter, a little teeniest tiniest bit happier or contented. Or if it hasn't changed you in anyway, let's talk about that. That can be your OK, I'm finished with the 1/2 challenge and this is where I'm at now.
It sounds like they were initially friends so she probably told him before she realized she didn't actually want a friendship with him after all.
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