SBF in DMV interested in IR dating (boyfriends, non-black, Asian)

[Ladydlite]

I am a black woman who is interested in and open to dating outside my race in the DC area. However, I am never approached by men that aren't black. How can I come off as a little more approachable to non-black men?

All of my boyfriends have been black, but I have yet to meet a black man in this area worth my time and I am expanding my options. I do not need a lecture about that, fyi. I also do not spend all of my time in places or participate in activities that only cater to black people.

[Yiuppy]

Do things that mostly White people do; go camping, go hiking, go kayaking, go jogging in the Park and strolling around Georgetown and Chevy Chase. You'll appear different from many other Black women in the district who aren't as adventurous, and white men can relate easier to Black women who enjoy the activities that they're interested in continuing with a partner. Wine-tasting events, charities, with all of these you're bound to attract a fine non-Black man.

Though I am curious, would you be interested in a Black man who had all of his business together and wanted to pursue a relationship with you? Or are you completely x-ing any Blacks from the pool of potentials?

[LuckyGem]

People who define themselves as a race before seeing themselves as a human without consideration of any racial category do not date people different from them-self.

Stop defining yourself as a race, don't specifically search for a mate based on a category such as "race".

It will only make you attractive to people who have a fetish for "race" dating.

Search for someone who defines themself as a person and not a "racial" category.

What makes people different is not the "race" they identify with or the skin they're wrapped up in.

[STT Resident]

OK, I got the SBF and the IR but what's the DMV? In my neck of the woods it's the Department of Motor Vehicles.

[LuckyGem]

Originally Posted by STT Resident

OK, I got the SBF and the IR but what's the DMV? In my neck of the woods it's the Department of Motor Vehicles.

Delaware, Maryland, Virginia.

She's in/or around Washington DC.

[STT Resident]

Oh, thanks! I'll try to remember that for future reference.

[Seattleite61]

I am a white female married to a black male and dated many black males over the years. From my experience, it is often difficult to know if someone of a different race is open to interracial dating. I always made it a point to strike up conversation with a man I thought was a potential date, just to open the door and let them know I was interested...

Good luck!

[paladinking]

Choose your favorite and why should you care are black or white?

[Marissy]

Originally Posted by Ladydlite

I am a black woman who is interested in and open to dating outside my race in the DC area. However, I am never approached by men that aren't black. How can I come off as a little more approachable to non-black men?

All of my boyfriends have been black, but I have yet to meet a black man in this area worth my time and I am expanding my options. I do not need a lecture about that, fyi. I also do not spend all of my time in places or participate in activities that only cater to black people.

It may be your dress or how you look? I remember once when I was in pre-calc when I caught this asian guy's eye. Usually we sat next to each other without saying a word. But, one day I was just feeling extra chipper and flashed him a smile as I was passing the homework back towards him. He kept crushing on me the entire semester after that, lol. Simple acts of kindness and femininity (sp?) will help you catch any man's eye. Wear makeup so that it looks like you aren't wearing any at all (like neutral colors with maybe a splash of pink or berry red on the lips). All the men look at me and want to chat when I do this. Also, keep hair nice, but not too wild. Very made up hair tends to scare men off in my experience. :S

With any man of any race, a woman with a good taste in fashion and with high manners is the best. I never go around the store with pajamas like other people do, for example.

*edit* I am black too if that helps any.

[Ladydlite]

Originally Posted by Yiuppy

Do things that mostly White people do; go camping, go hiking, go kayaking, go jogging in the Park and strolling around Georgetown and Chevy Chase. You'll appear different from many other Black women in the district who aren't as adventurous, and white men can relate easier to Black women who enjoy the activities that they're interested in continuing with a partner. Wine-tasting events, charities, with all of these you're bound to attract a fine non-Black man.

Though I am curious, would you be interested in a Black man who had all of his business together and wanted to pursue a relationship with you? Or are you completely x-ing any Blacks from the pool of potentials?

Yes, I do some of these things with the exception of kayaking. I like shopping in Georgetown and Friendship Heights and I give back to several charities.

I would definitely be interested in a black man that had his business together, wanted to pursue things with me and that I am attracted to. That is key. I have met some that fit those characterisitics, only to find out they were players or were not focused.

My makeup is simple since my skin is pretty nice. I receive compliments on it occasionally. I usually step out with mascara and lipgloss, but I am trying to experiment with more color. My clothing is sometimes trendy, but I cover my assets (no pun intended) because I am conservative about my dress as well. I go out alone and even while alone, I don't get approached often by non-black guys. I thought it was easier to approach a woman who is by herself. By going out, I mean, to local museums, out to eat (nice establishments only), events, etc.