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Sounds like you may be addressing me... I never said pride in appearance has anything to do with money. Money helps, a lot, but it's not essential.
I take pride in appearance to be neat, clean and hair groomed (combed, not necessary for moose, hairspray or whatever chemicals some guys put in their hair).
I'm sure there are guys who will take that to mean a suit and tie.
I'm just going to be neat, clean and just be myself, nice and caring and respectful toward others. If someone likes me, fine. If they don't like me, then fine.
I take pride in appearance to be neat, clean and hair groomed (combed, not necessary for moose, hairspray or whatever chemicals some guys put in their hair).
I'm sure there are guys who will take that to mean a suit and tie.
I'm just going to be neat, clean and just be myself, nice and caring and respectful toward others. If someone likes me, fine. If they don't like me, then fine.
Excellent post! if every man and every woman took a good look at themselves at any given time especially though when the dating needs they have are not being met, one has to wonder, "is it me?" and most often it is.
In my twenties, I was having so many problems with dating. I dated the suited or military guy. My older girlfriend said, Childfree, you're dating the same guy over and over. His face is different, but it's the same guy. It was hurtful to hear. I didn't understand, so inside I said, shut up. Once I thought about her comment...it was a true statement. It was the same guy recycling in/out of my life.
After the painful divorce...I reassessed. What were my issues in the marriage.
It comes down to not expecting more than what you offer, yourself.
True.
My friend is a big girl. She said, she wanted to find a guy. She has this list of items for this future mate.
She said, I want to find someone Childfree, but I wanna lose some weight. I said, well do it. Go on a diet. Her reply. No, I like food too much. Yikes. I gave her the company answer...oh.
Don't believe her size has anything to do with her not dating. She had a bad marriage and a worse divorce. The situation turned her bitter. You can see it on her face.
No one wants to be with someone who doesn't take care of themselves. That doesn't mean being superficial; it means taking the time to groom yourself. Who wants to be with a slob? Gross.
Secondly, BE YOURSELF. If a person doesn't like you, oh well. It's a tough pill to swallow, but if you want to be truly happy you must be yourself and find someone that likes you for who you really are.
Third, don't be so darned picky! Realize that the *truly* important things that make a relationship successful has little to do with how a person dresses, what they do for a job, etc. No one is perfect. Try to be more accepting of other people's differences/characteristics.
But they DO make you want to take a second look at a total stranger you know nothing else about. While people may open a book even if they don't like the cover, that's not usually the case in human relations. Besides, the cover IS important as well.
The cover is only important IRT how well groomed a person is. Not how they are dressed. Two different things.
And looks should be VERY low on your priority list.
The cover is only important IRT how well groomed a person is. Not how they are dressed. Two different things.
And looks should be VERY low on your priority list.
Last time I checked, I was making my priority list.
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