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Old 01-06-2011, 04:38 PM
 
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One of my daughters lives in Australia, the other in New Zealand. I asked them what they wanted for xmas, money or a gift up to $200. One took the money, the other a gift.

I sent my Mum and siblings photos in frames that I had taken last year, and my niece and nephews got gifts. The big box of presents arrived 2 weeks before xmas.

Not one of them sent me anything, which is fine, I don't expect presents, but not even a card. No xmas card, no thank you card from anyone.

My SO is furious at what he calls blatant disrespect on behalf of my family.

Is he right to be angry?

Would any of you expect more than an email saying thank you?
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Old 01-06-2011, 04:43 PM
 
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I'm not one to expect gifts from others and I'm not sure where you are, but given that your family is in two different countries, they could have at least sent you a card. I mean you sent them $200 as a gift or in gifts. That was very generous of you and all you got in return was an email?

If you sent that type of gift to me, I'd send you a card either with money or something that you both would like.

If I was broke or not, I would at least send you a card with heartfelt thanks.
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Old 01-06-2011, 04:45 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Would any of you expect more than an email saying thank you?
Yeah, I believe they should send you at least a real card.
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Old 01-06-2011, 04:47 PM
 
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My SO is furious at what he calls blatant disrespect on behalf of my family.

Is he right to be angry?

Would any of you expect more than an email saying thank you?
I generally give gifts to my family without expectation of getting anything in return, but having the gift not even be acknowledged would tick me off too.

BTW, that would be the last time I would be sending them gifts.
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Old 01-06-2011, 04:47 PM
 
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Yeah, I believe they should send you at least a real card.
Which reminds me. I have to send you a card to thank you for the 5 million you sent me.
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Old 01-06-2011, 04:58 PM
 
Location: Tucson
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Which reminds me. I have to send you a card to thank you for the 5 million you sent me.
Ah, you're still quite short of 5 million cookies.
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Old 01-06-2011, 05:01 PM
 
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One of my brother's family is the same way. When their boys were real little my SIL always made sure she sent a Thank You and have them send one too. Now, they don't even acknowledge they've even received the gifts I have to ship. It ticks me off to no end, she's not working and not actively looking so she has the time to at least let me know they got the gift - but I've gotten used to it and the boys are getting older so that'll be the end of gift giving soon.
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Old 01-06-2011, 05:04 PM
 
Location: Nashville, Tn
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I would also be upset because that behavior shows a certain amount of disrespect. I am fortunate because my family members are very close even though we live miles apart. I think that you are referring to family members who lives many thousands apart and that is often difficult. Adios
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Old 01-06-2011, 05:12 PM
 
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I think your SO has the right to be upset as well as yourself. My SIL did this to me two years in a row. My husband finally called his mother to find out if sis got the gifts. A week into the new year we got a phone call (we sent the gifts on Dec. 3rd) and I know the only reason my SIL called was because her mother said something to her. That was the last year I sent presents to my SIL with my husband's blessing.
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Old 01-06-2011, 05:45 PM
 
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Just don't get them anything next xmas. You can't force goodwill. I'd be upset that they didn't thank me too, but whatever... I wouldn't let it get to me. You can't expect anything nowadays. An email or phone call would actually be okay with me, but I still would not send them any gifts because they did not put forth the effort so why should I?

I deleted everyone from my contacts who didn't reciprocate my Happy New Year message.
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